So my LTR of 3 months is really solid. She submissive af, wants to never displease me, etc.. Still I saw a chat today on her phone from last year september, when I was already meeting with her for 3 months (but usually only once-twice a month due to other plates) and she asked a guy out to hang out (again) (he did not reply lol).
She told me that she saw him the same day at school coincidentally and they decided they should not meet. This was a obvious lie because the text was sent at 6 pm from her.
Tbh how should I proceed? For me if I know a girl is meeting with other guys, the same time as me, I would fuck and dip right away. A real side chick only meets wants to meet with you. Her statemtents in the past made me believe she did not meet anyone simultaneously .
TLDR: Should I break up with a (really good) LTR over this?
mattyanon Admin 3y ago
It's possible he just called her, or contacted her in some other way.
Lying is the biggest red flag of all.
But she's a liar.
How do you know she's a "really good" LTR? There is evidence of her dishonesty around her fidelity.
truthdontbehidden 3y ago
that is very true
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financehardo420 3y ago
So you had her as a plate and smashed 1-2 times a month for the first 3 months of knowing her… and then gave her exclusivity and LTR status after 3 months?
Tbh for LTR ya just fall back n plate her means she didn’t fw you 1000% off the rip.
truthdontbehidden 3y ago
To be exact smashed her in 2021 for two months. Then she cut back contact due to valid family problems and I did not want to be bothered with that.
Yeah I gave her LTR too fast though. You know she presented herself the best way she could and still tries to. It is men that are thinking romantically (~the rational male) and I thought she could be special lol.
I dont like plates in general, because it means usually that the plate has her own plates too. Probably gonna keep this girl as a sidechick.
financehardo420 3y ago
Yea classic chick behavior when they wanna lock down a dude. My boys been talkin to this chick and she straight up claimed to be a virgin; he smashed n immediately knew it was cap lolz. Don’t trust these hoes it’s all an act
Meh I mean that just comes w being single; yes you can lay down fire ass pipe and that will deter them from wanting to fuck around w other chads but there’s pretty much always another chad. If not all it takes is one chad to approach at the right setting and it’s a wrap.
If ya wanna live rent free 4ever you could just start cheating too; stay toxic king
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truthdontbehidden 3y ago
Had a ex that was not like this. But she also had a father, thats probably why lol
No-Stress-Cat 2 3y ago
She was a plate back then. That was 6 months ago. She chose you. I'd let this one slide. Now that you're in an LTR, when she fucks up, it's your job to correct her. You gotta pick your battles, young brother.
Problematic_Browser 1 3y ago
Sounds to me like you're the side chick.
You're dwelling on this more than I would. I wouldn't drop her (so long as she's fucking) but if I uncovered that kind of lie, I wouldn't commit to her.
Story time. I'm FWBing with this woman and she lets it slip that she had met with the father of her children after swearing that he "doesn't have access to her body" (I knew it was BS, but I wasn't gonna push it). I told her that it was cool.
What I didn't tell her was how it changed our relationship. I no longer responded to her requests for time - I only contacted her when I was in the mood. I no longer entertained any of her shit - when she did something disagreeable or off-putting, I sent her home. I no longer did non-bedroom stuff with her - it was only sex.
Why is this relevant to you? Because you treat women according to the positions that their actions put them in.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Set boundaries. No lying. I think I did this the first week with my wife.