Broke up with her. 2 years.
After blocking her from all my social media, she still manages to text my business cell # claiming to "stop" my spam.
She accuses me of sending her "harassment emails". She says it's me because the subject lines have my name or nickname, and the content has things that we've done together. Says the moment she changed her personal email, all the spam stopped. Now only her work email & phone number are affected. Threatens to take legal action.
I really fear for her sanity.
How could a man possibly have the time to even harass someone?
She "tries" to send me screenshots of it, but it turns out that all of the "spam emails" are either in her Junk/Spam Folder or are just regular spam calls. Claims that since we broke up, she has received a ton of these and believes I'm just "getting back" at her.
Because I obviously just "wasted her time" and she doesn't trust me in the slightest, I assume she is using this as some type of "leverage"?
Is this some new tiktok strategy bullshit to get back at exes??
She now uses this reason to turn her close friends and even some of my acquaintances against me. Blind eye. Even goes far with libel about me in FB groups I've introduced her to (hobby communities we're now both in). Even now, she posts bad reviews on my business pages, and even got her friends to do so.
I indulged a bit and opened up communications. She responds by asking me to "tell her the truth". It didn't matter that I ask her to erase the bad reviews or libel she was causing. I did tell her to go to a specialist or police, or any other of those things. But this just really disturbs me.
Says she doesn't trust me because she knows I have "numerous accounts" so she thinks it's me harassing her. And yes, I do have other female acquaintances, this is the many reasons why I ended it, she couldn't even accept me having friends.
Also, I made a mistake by showing her, my part-timer. I cook & sell novelty/specialty cakes for birthday parties. I alternate 4 gmail accounts to manage its business pages, this is the only way I get business without paying for ads. She thinks I'm the one causing her grief.
Yes, I'm documenting her voicemails, texts, and libel. I'm a bit too broke to get legally defended at the moment.
What do you think of all of these?
Lady. You're really not worth it enough to even harass, and now that I know how you'll react, I won't even bother you with a ten-foot pole.
About this 2 years, she played along in Year 1 and I assumed she was aware of it. I figured she was aware. She feigned to like my lifestyle, though, before I reluctantly stop with all the plating bs. Most likely believed she could truly lock me in. In our 2nd year together, I was going through a tough time in my life. She did help me financially and I've since paid most of them off, I only now owe her minimally but she's not asking for this, she wants some "truth". But because I also don't want to hurt her, I had to stop as soon as it felt like I was only using her to keep her from locking me in and to stop being lonely. Now I got my bearings. I had to stop. I knew I had a bad feeling about her in the very beginning. Yes, she's extremely loyal, would pour her heart out, and everything but crazy after breaking.
Why do you think she's doing this?
I just can't accept that she really believes I'm the one harassing her.
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
Ignore her.
Every response just feeds her need for attention.
Cal-Dirty 1y ago
The longer and more serious you let things go with chicks - the more they 'feel' they have a right to do you harm should you leave. This is why so many dudes don't ever let it get to a serious level, anymore. Next time you're in this situation - always make them break up with you. Leave your pride at the door. They never do bad things to the guys they leave. Preferably, you'll learn your lesson and quit playing the relationship game with these chicks. Just do situationships you can back out of whenever you want.
Einsamer 1y ago
Exactly that. If you live in a country where laws and enforcement are heavily in favour of women (which now is pretty much all 1st world countries) then you really want her to break up. It's easy to do this with TRP knowledge. Just turn very beta over a few weeks or months and you are good.
It is annoying but honestly by far the safest way to get out.
Cal-Dirty 1y ago
Yup. TRP teaches what turns them on. Just do the opposite when you want them to bail.
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Typo-MAGAshiv 1 1y ago
Just ignore the dumb bitch. If it's as easy to tell that it's not you as it sounds, the police will laugh her right out of the station.
She's just an idiot who wants your attention. Don't give it to her.
Aphr00dita 1y ago
If she does it on this scale and continuously it can't be anything else but really messes up head.
Its possible shell try to visit you at home to fuck with your brain more or... Well see Johnny Deep case.
I always say to get cheap camera with SD recording to monitor your house entrance (as minimum) and keep it secret and obscured. $30 and when u r away you can see did you leave milk on stove.
Be also ready to record voice, learn how to use it and that it doesn't get shut down in background or when phone is locked.
All you need is hard evidence she stalks you.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
It's either narcissistic gaslighting or you/she got hacked. Every day I get phishing attempts saying my amazon account is locked, my package is being held by USPS, etc. They've gotten quite sophisticated and if they have her contact list... I used to get emails from my mom that were spam when she got hacked.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
She is now a stalker.
She is making false claims to get either attention or "If I can't have you, noone can". She is trying to destroy your life out of revenge.
This is stalker mentality.
You have to make sure she has ZERO contact with you. She wants you to contact her and beg her to stop. This contact is what sustains her. ANY contact sustains her.
Don't negotiate with terrorists. Take whatever action you need to keep her out of your life. You must never, ever contact her or have contact with her in any way. Especially not voice, never in person, no email, nothing.
If there is any reason to contact her it must be done through a lawyer. If it's not through a lawyer, keep her out of your life. All contact sustains the stalker mentality and must be avoided.
Either ignore or take legal proceedings against her.
Good. Solid documentation may be useful in future.
Revenge/stalker. It's why we don't shit where we eat.
Sadly she has over invested in you, and now wants closure. This means she has to do better and feel better and you have to be destroyed, sadly.
Women are not loyal, lesson learned I hope.
She doesn't. But she wants to feel you care. She wants your attention. She wants all her crazy feelings to mean something.
She'll gradually lessen all this shit and get bored, but it will take a while. All contact with her will reset the counter back to zero, don't do it.