So whenever I have an intimate relationship with a girl I like, feel comfortable with and I find her to be around a 6/7 out of 10 (rating), I have no problems in bed, I can easily go 30 minutes and have the best sex of my life. The problem is whenever I get intimate with girls who have nice "features" about them and that's usually just casual hookups.
I never got beautiful girls until I started leveling up in life and I'm still quite young, so these types of women are new to me. I can't seem to control myself or get relaxed and I finish in 30 seconds of penetration. I think that I'm still putting them on a pedestal in my mind, but these are the types of girls I would dream of getting with when I was a loser. So what is the problem here?
Thanks for all the answers in advance.
starmassive1 3y ago
How did you level up? Whats different now then before if you dont mind me asking i want to get to that point
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whytehorse2021 3y ago
It's all in your mind. Stop thinking about it and enjoy yourself.
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whytehorse2021 3y ago
You're ruminating. Set a time limit for how much you can think about it and then don't think about it until the next day.
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
Download and read the Sex God Method by Dan Rose. He covers issues like these and much more.
Correct. It's just a phase that will go away once you have more experience. Reading the book will help you get there faster.
User4566 3y ago
Condoms? They help a lot.
MrSupreme 3y ago
Yeah condoms may help a bit with that, getting them off the pedestal too.But what I think may prove benefitial is to have some longer foreplay than what you usually have
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
I find the absolute best way to last is to manage your angles of penetration and when you get close to climax to keep yourself from finishing for just a bit while maintaining a pace and stimulation that is just below finishing
I find my body gets close enough to climax that I think I actually do climax just so minimally that I don't actually do, but don't ejaculate either.
I always last a while after I get past that little strategic moment and my nerves don't let me finish unless I really try.
I can usually last 30 mins plus easy tricking my body like that
dongking 3y ago
I think this happens to most guys in the beginning when you start fucking really hot girls. You get used to it. So do it more and you'll train yourself.
Wouldn't be suprised if it's some evolutionary and subconscious thing to nut inside the hottest/best women you've fucked to ensure that you get the best offspring. Historically you ran the risk of wild animals, other men that'd kill/fight you and fuck her etc. so you probably had to nut in that prime vagina real quick with sole purpose of impregnating her.
So solution is to fuck hot girls more often. If you nut quick first time, you should be able to go in like 30min-1hour again and last much longer. Once you've done it a few times you'll be fine, unless you have a long break from hot girls.
Hold frame if it happens. Don't excuse yourself or say sorry etc. Own it and be unbothered. Then fuck her good round 2.
TRPPRT2021 3y ago
Means your dick and brain functions normally, but also you're excited, and I mean who the fuck wouldn't be.
Solution - exposure therapy, fuck more 9s and 10s and you'll get more used to it.