I see beautiful women wherever I go. I know I should just approach them, but it seems like I have some mental block when it comes to approaching absolute dimes. I was at a party last night, and there were hot women everywhere, but I didn't approach a single one.
My SMV is at the highest point it's ever been. I have plenty of average looking girls who approach me, hit on me, ask my number, ... But these are not the women I'm interested in. I've been thinking, and in my life I've only fucked one girl who I'd consider an absolute dime, and that was just because of lucky circumstances. (Met her at a summer bar, through a female co-worker, when I bumped into them).
So what should I do now?
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
Uh.. approach? Grow balls? Something along those lines.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Stop pedestalizing women. I see a dime and then I look again and she's a fake blonde, lots of make-up, special pants to not look fat, old, saggy tits. An adjustable 6 but all the fat slobs in pajamas around her make her look like a 10.
Bulba 3y ago
Think about it as a sales problem and try to solve one step at a time. You want to bring hot girls to the bottom of the sales funnel.
First of all, you must see if the hot girls are making it to the top of your sales funnel. Are you talking to them? Are you talking to their friends around them? You need social proof if you want to get girls at this level.
After that it’s a matter of learning how to escalate. But if you’re struggling with even talking to these girls, then try to approach them in a non-sexual way and see how you can take it from there.
koedeloe123 3y ago
Yeah, I'm approaching these girls, but not as much as I should. The hottest women I've dated were through my social circle, but it's been ages since I took some time to go out. Most of my time is spent at work and the gym. And during the weekends I work too, so it's really hard to meet girls nowadays. But that shouldn't be an excuse, because I have no trouble meeting average women.
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koedeloe123 3y ago
You're right, but I always thought theredpill was all about having options and abundance mentality. That's why I had plenty of average looking girls. Right now I have 0 plates, because I'm not attracted to the average ones anymore. I feel like, once I start spinning hot plates, I'll be fine, but right now I'm in a zone where I neither have average women, and neither have hot women, it sucks.
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mattyanon Admin 3y ago
If you can approach average girls, start working your way up.
If you CAN'T approach average girls (but they hit on you), then you need to work on talking to strangers in general.
koedeloe123 3y ago
Thanks for the advice. I should indeed start working my way up and stop being a pussy. Hot women don't need to approach, so it's my own fault for not approaching any of them...
PrisonnierDuGingoa 3y ago
Not OP, but from your experience would you say really hot girls are more difficult to score than average cute girls?
Some people make the argument that since average cute girls look more attainable, they get hit on more and therefore have more competition, whereas men are more intimated by really hot girls so they get hit on less so they're not actually more difficult to seduce.
From my experience doing daygame cold approaches I didn't see much of a difference, but I don't have huge experience either
koedeloe123 3y ago
I haven't approached many hot girls, but the ones I've approached were way more fun to hang out with than average looking girls. I don't even know why I'm still approaching average girls. They're worse looking, and usually have a worse personality as well.
financehardo420 3y ago
I just made a rule to myself: every chick I fuck has to be as hot or hotter than the last; no exceptions. Once you start fucking with hot chicks, your hamster will stop spinning and you won’t get nervous and fuck it up anymore.
Going a week or two without getting your dick wet should be more than enough motivation to start getting out there and shooting your shot.
Heard an Andrew Tate clip that applies here. Chicks are human too… there’s 3.5 billion of em in the world and they all poop and fart just like us. No chick is special.
koedeloe123 3y ago
I actually like this idea. My last plate broke 3 weeks ago, and I haven't fapped since the first of January, so the urge is immense. Let's see how long it takes before I get a hotter chick, I like this idea, because it sounds more rewarding/challenging.
financehardo420 3y ago
It really is brother. Just bump into a baddie at the bars and ask her if she just tried to touch your butt. Works like a charm.
Also sidenote: spinning plates is supposed to be plural not singular. such that when a plate breaks, it doesn’t matter bc you’ve already got another one to fill her absence. And then you just keep meeting new prospects. Get em over, fuck em good n give ‘em the tingles and boom new plate secured
koedeloe123 3y ago
Definitely going to use your hilarious line at bars, I tend to overthink what to say when I cold approach, and ultimately don't do it. And yep, over the summer I had 5 plates at once, but most of them broke, because I just didn't feel attracted to them anymore. I pretty much ghosted all of them, and have 0 plates right now.
I met most of my plates through night game, but that's no longer an option, because I barely have time due to work/hobbies. You got some tips on day game? My day game is horrible to be honest, because I overthink. During night game it was so much easier, because of the alcohol.
Lone_Ranger 3 3y ago
Actually, there's 4 billion women in the world. But what's 500,000,000 women between friends?
financehardo420 3y ago
Just an extra 500,000 opportunities to fuck lmao
Acela_nextel 3y ago
Another thing is to be aware of what your smv is toward certain types of women, like if you’re black don’t bother approaching big booty blonde bitches
Lone_Ranger 3 3y ago
you sure? I imagine that most big booty blonde bitches are aching for black dudes. just my observation.
Acela_nextel 3y ago
I mean yeah cause we obviously know how to handle all that ass lol.
financehardo420 3y ago
I love my big booty blonde bitches. They’re probs my fav thing to stick my dick in but I also like my women in different flavors from time to time to keep things interesting lmao.
If you’re black you just gotta find the right slut that’s trying to make her dad mad by fucking black guys lol
Acela_nextel 3y ago
I’m mixed but I get mistaken for being latino a lot, so I get a lot of IOI’s from black and Latina women. White bitches are really my type
financehardo420 3y ago
Hit the gym and then hit em w the rizz
Acela_nextel 3y ago
I been hitting the gym for a year but I’m short af so ig I need way more muscle to compensate
financehardo420 3y ago
No I don’t lmfao I’m 5”8 it’s way easier for short kings to build muscle than if you were like 6”2
Lone_Ranger 3 3y ago
I can relate - I'm 6"3 and a classic ectomorph - it's very slow building muscle.