Oneitis. Went from alpha to beta. Even though we were each other's firsts and we did have sex so I assumed there was an equal level of emotional investment. Moved and went LDR tried to make it work. Hot to cold. Dumped. Blocked because otherwise it would be "boring" (is this a test? I have been very stoic so far so maybe she wants an outburst). Not sure if there was another guy in the picture or respect was lost.
Anyway, Is it best to just move on NC or can I revive some respect in the eye of this girl from
- burning the bridge by confronting any disrespect but in a least buthurt way as possible, possibly meeting the test and passing and if not who cares my ego got fed. Keep in mind I have not had an outburst yet. Or
- acknowledging that I got feelings when I shouldn't have and wish them all the best. So a more amused ending?
I care because it is my first sexual relationship so I do not mind it ending but rather on a good note given memories etc.
What should I do?
Whisper Moderator 3y ago
Oneitis == no contact. Ghost her.
samgreg4988 3y ago
Make sure you're mentally adept to be able to ghost her and have nothing formed that will get you all longing and attached, mental health is also important.
Einsamer 3y ago
Yes you do, that's why you are desperately seeing things as "tests" that you could pass to get back to how it was.
It's over and you have to accept it and move on. It sucks and you won't forget it in a day, but stop thinking about her, don't contact her and focus on yourself now. The past is the past.
dongking 3y ago
Move on. Block her everywhere as well. Take some time off, hit the gym harder than ever before then go out and game many new different women.
If she ever reaches out, which chances are she will, do not respond. That means her new guy dumped her ass and she's seeking comfort and validation from you.
And yes, she has a new guy. She would never have blocked you otherwise. Now she doesn't want your texts/calls coming in and disturbing when her new bf is balls deep in her.