Long story short going out tonight, and I've not been out in a long long time, not speaking to many new women only to ones I already know. Any recommended reads before tonight or maybe YT videos to get me in the 'zone' so to speak (Just to get the gist of what I should be saying).
In general my biggest issue is that I am too logical/serious, which is why one time I decided just to have fun, playful conversations, and any time I started falling into logical conversations that could've been made a lot more funny or playful, I snapped out of it and made sure to look and utilise the opportunity.
Any advice please?
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lilycollins34 2y ago
It's great that you're looking for ways to improve your social skills and make the most of your night out. Try to relax and enjoy yourself, and don't put too much pressure on yourself to be perfect. https://bitlifeonline.com
celinedion 3y ago
In terms of general advice, it's great that you recognize the importance of having playful and fun conversations. One thing to keep in mind is that it's often more important to be interested than interested. That is, try to focus on getting to know the other person and finding common ground, rather than trying to impress them with your own stories or accomplishments. https://foodlewordle.io
Einsamer 3y ago
You don't need any knowledge or advice at this point except: just GTFO into the field and start practicing. And don't get discouraged because it WILL be hard and mostly failures in the beginning, so keep going. And then, after you talked to at least 50 different girls go back to the sidebar for introspection about what you did well and what not.
You are just trying to seek comfort, but instead you should embrace the difficulty and see it from a different perpective: the first step is NOT getting woman. The first step is training your mind to become comfortable with a new situation and rejection and NOT letting that down you. That's your first job. Now stop reading anything about TRP and go out there.
TRPPRT2021 3y ago
Thank you, the biggest issue for me is just volume/opportunities to practice - I dont use dating apps, I dont club often, and I dont really approach women unless its a night out. Almost all of the women I've spoken to recently, even just flirting, were from either mutual friends or from my hobby, but thats hard to come by now. I want to try just cold approaching on the streets if I do find some girl attractive, but in the UK that's gonna have very low returns.
Thank you
JamesSkepp Moderator 3y ago
Go out 30 mins earlier, walk to your destination instead driving there, say "hi" to every girl/set you pass by, first 10 mins. Second 10 mins is "hi"+some social/noncommital comment about anything (but each time must be different), third is "hi" +flirting. You're not allowed any breaks, as soon as one set ends you immediately walk toward second.
There is no goal here (number or instadate), rejections don't mean anything here so you're allowed to burn EVERY interaction, the goal is to grease your engine so it doesn't choke on staying in your head. It's momentum building.
Next time you do this, the 3rd 10min is trying to stop them when they are walking.
TRPPRT2021 3y ago
Appreciate it, but I think I need some advice with flirting - I'm fine as soon as the ice is broken, but breaking the ice is what I struggle with - I rely a lot of having a common interest and or being introduced by someone, any advice?
JamesSkepp Moderator 3y ago
You just asked me for advice on how to learn game. So the proper advice is - learn game :D
kurkumaonce 3y ago
AS a quickie I totally support it
burned or not, I'd even say eject within 10 min whatever happens
eye contact strong , slow talk, posture, legs when sitting feet flat on the ground, hands no pockets or fidgeting, one story 'strawberry fields' its easy but she might know it, don't explain yourself
TRPPRT2021 3y ago
What do you mean by strawberry fields
mattyanon Admin 3y ago
Look, it's a journey. You're not going to spit mad game after watching a youtube short.
Fucking PRACTISE.