Out of 3 yr LTR as of a couple months, fucked a few 6s and 7s since, now travelling overseas, never gamed in a city where I didn't have my own place. I am admittedly off my game having not dated for 3 years, but it's far from dreadful.
Been here a few days, hot barista asked for my contact, she said (with no instigation from me) that she'd message me to chill that night, heard nothing but she's "liking" my instagram stories ever since. Haven't messaged her. Should I? Not really thinking about this one tbh but could be fun.
This one's less clear for me:
Cold-messaged a girl from instagram with "I'm looking for friends here cause I'm new here" – we met for coffee yesterday, I was a tired retard from my flight and I drank the night before and had no sleep. Was a good time but she was in charge (she lives here and I was tired as fuck), went for coffee, walked around, she took me to her favourite bookstore, I had to piss and she suggested we sit for a second coffee, then I walked her to her door nearby. No escalation. We exchanged a couple "useless" messages afterwards but I'm letting it chill for now.
She seemed and still seems slightly disengaged over text, but was quite enthusiastic and present in person. I would like to see her again but with the less-hot-girls I've plated recently I've had much clearer enthusiasm. Is this pretty much par for the course? After not dating for a while I seem to have forgotten that hot girls don't come as easy.
Anyways, trying to figure out how to proceed, I'm only here for about 1 more week.
monkey_penguins 1y ago
Asked her to a pretty interesting thing tmrw, language-barrier misunderstanding, said it's too early for her (thought I meant today) – I assumed this implied she could meet later today, so I asked, saw she was online, no response though. Obviously made it look like I had no plans tn (which I do but they start at midnight) but if she was interested at all it probably wouldn't be this difficult. On to the next!
Lionsmane8 1y ago
I think you are doing well. Just keep going.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Well done on getting her out for a date, next time ESCALATE
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Never wait until the end of the date to escalate. That's for our friend Mr. Too Little Too Late.
During the date you need to break the touch barrier and kino escalate. Dont just have a platonic conversation. Throw in some teasing and challenge her. You want to aim for a kiss, but not at the end. And dont force it if it's not in the cards.
You might get her out again or she might flake. If you do, you need to be more decisive or it's gonna fizzle out.
For the first girl just invite her out. No use in sitting around monitoring your likes. Lol