Been plating this girl for nearly 7 months. She's always been a good plate. Low maintenance, submissive, clean, and the sex is always good. Lately I've been noticing that she's catching feelings and wants to lock me in.
She just got back from a snowboard trip with her friends (4 guys and 4 girls). She came over to my place today, and after the sex she started being a little emotional. How it bothered her that I barely text/call her anymore, and that she missed me during her trip. Truth is that I was busy, and a little bit turned off by her going on a snowboarding trip with 4 guys. But who cares, she's a plate.
She even said that during her trip, some guy asked for her number at an afterparty (probably a shit test, but I don't think she'd lie about it). She said it was kind of awkward, because she doesn't know where she stands with me. Apparently she rejected him, because she likes me, and asked me if I want to be her boyfriend. I told her she can do whatever she wants, that I'm enjoying her company, but that I'm not looking for a relationship.
Like I said, I'm not looking for anything serious, especially not with her. Even though she's always been a good plate, I can't ignore the many red flags (going on a snowboard trip and getting wasted multiple times a week, and doing this with 4 guys). I don't know what happened at her trip, nor do I care, but it got me thinking.
Is it best to cut her off now? I feel like I can still plate her, but the plate will break within 6 months. Her catching feels has made it a lot more difficult, and I'm not sure if I should continue seeing her.
Axlerod9999 about a month ago
You need to break up. If you dont she will start fucking someone else and then fade you out. That would wound your ego a bit. Avoid. Also if you break up she will mostly pine for you for years. You will be the yard stick that everyone else would be measured to
Einsamer about a month ago
What exactly are all the red flags? Because of the two you mentioned only one is a red flag imho. And the other one, well... could be changed. If you don't want a LTR, fine, but your reasoning doesn't sound congruent, that's why I'm confirming with you here.
Vermillion-Rx about a month ago
Tell her you enjoy her company and if she is looking for something more she is welcome to find that in someone else. Let her know she's free to stay or go but that it's her choice
You don't have to break a plate over this. Now if she was clearly miserable, broken, and depressed over it, then yeah I'd say spare her the self-inflicted torment
coolsocks00 about a month ago
Sometimes it's not worth the hassle to keep managing the plate just for the sake of sex. See other women and fade her out so both of you can do your thing.
whytehorse2021 about a month ago
Be honest, my guy. You're the one that has to live with yourself for the rest of your life. Tell her you want a non-exclusive sexual relationship and she's free to pursue other men.