In general you explain and ask for her permission too much. Lead more and assume she's down. You're giving off vibes that she has higher SMV than you, whilst you write here that you're way above her.
Some examples:
You said:
Do you want to go back to my hotel?
Instead say: Let's go back to my hotel, I'm going to show you this YYY-banter/whatever that we discussed before.
You said:
Are you free 20 Feb?
Say this instead: I heard about this cool bar and we're going there for a drink. Let's meet at XXX 8pm.
etc.
In regards to your question of how to proceed; you can still chat with her a bit until you return. But keep it low volume and unpredictable. Tease her, ping her with something funny/sexual etc and drop the whole "how was your day" and emotional tampoon vibe.
In general you should be less invested, more fun and witty if you want to use text game. Otherwise just drop it and only use it for logistics.
That text convo was gay as hell dude. You're so overinvested in this girl, and what she's doing is just feeding her ego with your attention.
Stop being her pen pal and take it in stride as you go.
Am I interpreting this situation properly?
No
Do I need to text her for anything other than to set up the date?
Depends. Her gaydar might be going off more and more as you're closer to arriving. Be sparse with texting. It needs to be witty banter, preferrably sexual, not the how was your day shit.
When should I text her something like "Are you free Feb 20"?
I suggest doing nothing of the sort. Dont let her know shit until she asks. Dont even let her know when you've arrived if she doesnt ask. You're a busy guy and your day doesnt revolve around her. If you dont hear anything for a few days after arriving you hit her up.
how do I set this up optimally
e.g. can I just skip the "let's watch a movie" shit at my place
No. Always provide plausible deniability to girls you arent banging on the reg
I have no idea how else I could have responded to "how is your day going" etc without just straight ignoring her.
Not answering someones text straight away doesnt equal ignoring. I forget texts all the time because i got shit to do and either dont see them or dont have the time to answer that moment/day.
Definitely possible she doesn't text at all when I move b/c she thinks I am ghosting her,
Possible, but you cant overthink and micro manage every interaction you have. Let her know what day you arrive so she's in the loop.
How does a museum > ice cream > "come see the view at my place" sound to you?
Fine. I'd skip the museum personally. Sometimes ice cream too. The issue in your case is she probably already has you flagged as a beta, so expect an uphill battle unless your SMV and game in person is way above this text convo.
Yes it's hands down much better if she's not nearly DTF. You can still do location swapping quite efficiently, just dont incorporate any big time sinks.
This next date ideally ends in sex. I made it clear previously that's what I want. I really want to get the point across, "if you want me, satisfy me", and this becomes a reliable plate.
This is fine so long as you are happy with her opting out if this isn't what she wants.
"Fuck me or fuck off" is good, it really is, so long as you are truly happy with either outcome. This is men with abundance: you fuck each girl or she fucks off, either is good because you have other options.
But if you really want to get with THIS girl, it's not ideal.
Am I interpreting this situation properly? Feel free to drop your 2 cents.
Not sure, we've seen nothing of what she says. Girls being high interest is not the same thing as fucking you.
2,3
whatever
4
Ideal is to meet close to your room, "Drop off X item in my room, then we'll head out". Make an excuse to get her inside and out again quickly. This makes it really easy to go back there.
5 SMV gap
Is the gap so big? You've said she's the hottest you have going on right now, so the gap might not be what you think it is.
You can't skip "let's watch a movie", you always need plausible deniability for her, she can still get LMR, etc.
You talk as if you're super hot and she's an easy lay, but you also seem worried about it, don't quite know what you're doing, etc........ All of which is fine, but it reads as if you have a bit of an ego problem. Which is also fine, we all suffer from it, but you might be blinding yourself to some realities.
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dongking 8 months ago
In general you explain and ask for her permission too much. Lead more and assume she's down. You're giving off vibes that she has higher SMV than you, whilst you write here that you're way above her.
Some examples:
You said:
Instead say: Let's go back to my hotel, I'm going to show you this YYY-banter/whatever that we discussed before.
You said:
Say this instead: I heard about this cool bar and we're going there for a drink. Let's meet at XXX 8pm.
etc.
In regards to your question of how to proceed; you can still chat with her a bit until you return. But keep it low volume and unpredictable. Tease her, ping her with something funny/sexual etc and drop the whole "how was your day" and emotional tampoon vibe.
In general you should be less invested, more fun and witty if you want to use text game. Otherwise just drop it and only use it for logistics.
coolsocks00 8 months ago
That text convo was gay as hell dude. You're so overinvested in this girl, and what she's doing is just feeding her ego with your attention.
Stop being her pen pal and take it in stride as you go.
No
Depends. Her gaydar might be going off more and more as you're closer to arriving. Be sparse with texting. It needs to be witty banter, preferrably sexual, not the how was your day shit.
I suggest doing nothing of the sort. Dont let her know shit until she asks. Dont even let her know when you've arrived if she doesnt ask. You're a busy guy and your day doesnt revolve around her. If you dont hear anything for a few days after arriving you hit her up.
No. Always provide plausible deniability to girls you arent banging on the reg
Omni-Lab 8 months ago
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coolsocks00 8 months ago
Not answering someones text straight away doesnt equal ignoring. I forget texts all the time because i got shit to do and either dont see them or dont have the time to answer that moment/day.
Possible, but you cant overthink and micro manage every interaction you have. Let her know what day you arrive so she's in the loop.
Fine. I'd skip the museum personally. Sometimes ice cream too. The issue in your case is she probably already has you flagged as a beta, so expect an uphill battle unless your SMV and game in person is way above this text convo.
Omni-Lab 8 months ago
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coolsocks00 8 months ago
Yes it's hands down much better if she's not nearly DTF. You can still do location swapping quite efficiently, just dont incorporate any big time sinks.
Omni-Lab 8 months ago
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mattyanon Admin 8 months ago
This is fine so long as you are happy with her opting out if this isn't what she wants.
"Fuck me or fuck off" is good, it really is, so long as you are truly happy with either outcome. This is men with abundance: you fuck each girl or she fucks off, either is good because you have other options.
But if you really want to get with THIS girl, it's not ideal.
Not sure, we've seen nothing of what she says. Girls being high interest is not the same thing as fucking you.
whatever
Ideal is to meet close to your room, "Drop off X item in my room, then we'll head out". Make an excuse to get her inside and out again quickly. This makes it really easy to go back there.
Is the gap so big? You've said she's the hottest you have going on right now, so the gap might not be what you think it is.
You can't skip "let's watch a movie", you always need plausible deniability for her, she can still get LMR, etc.
You talk as if you're super hot and she's an easy lay, but you also seem worried about it, don't quite know what you're doing, etc........ All of which is fine, but it reads as if you have a bit of an ego problem. Which is also fine, we all suffer from it, but you might be blinding yourself to some realities.
Omni-Lab 8 months ago
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