After sex she said something like "I want you to fall in love with me" or some shit. Definitely isn't word for word but that's the gist.
I told her "Well shit I already have you in love with me so"
And she said "yeah but you don't love me back"
I took this as some kind of insecurity on her part so I told her that I really liked her.
That's all I said "I really like you, genericgirlname" and I said it with my chest. Then I told her I had to go and left to get my day started.
I don't know if that's a bad idea or not. I don't usually tell girls how much I like them, seems necessary to me to say it sometimes at least.
benzino 3y ago
You say it if you want to keep her around. If it's a plate then dont make commitments you cant keep
Dxmx99 3y ago
Right I chose "I like you" in response for it's vague-er connotation compared to "ily"
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Dxmx99 3y ago
She did it again and I said nothing back and her response was "Guess I have to try harder"
Win
Skev77 3y ago
U did the right thing imo because this seemed like a text book comfort test and if she’s still around, u passed. Cheers!
MidgetSpinner 3y ago
My rule is, if she says she loves you first and you do genuinely love her back (not honeymoon phase shit), then just say so. It's alright to let go a little bit as long as you don't become blinded by it. If you don't love her though, but do really like her, that's fine too. Just see how it goes, things will inevitably shift in time. Just don't be afraid, dude. You can maintain frame while loving someone, although admittedly it is harder.
Lone_Ranger 3 3y ago
Sounds fine.
It can be a bit disconcerting when a woman lays down the love thing. Esp when they demand that you love them as much as they love you. You can be evasive without being a dick about it. If she continues with this, don't get annoyed - its a good sign. You could counter with some truisms (truisms are my favourite tactic with women, because they are true. They don't quite answer the question, but most women can't really seem to fathom linear thinking anyway, so it acts like a deflector or flare to push her attention onto something related but not the question at hand.) in your case, if she is 'accusing' you of not loving her as much as she loves you;
"Men are different, we feel in different ways and we express our emotions differently" "You can't expect me to emote like a female, because I'm male" "We're different - that's what makes us attracted to each other..."
"Well men