I only recently started using Hinge and it was my favorite dating app.
However, I’m a bit annoyed with online dating in general.
So now I need to move to cold approach.
I live an hour away from the city though.
I guess I can go to the city once a week, but it’ll be alone. How many numbers should I aim to get per week with cold approach in order to have a good dating life?
Lone_Ranger 2 2y ago
blessing in disguise. OLD looks like a waste of time to me. If you put the same amount of hours into day game that the average guy has to put into OLD, I would be very surprised if you got as many lays from OLD. Also, spending hours on creating profiles, pictures, editing your reality for show, endless typing of messages..... it turns dudes into crypto-girls.
Invest in your day game will make your real world situational awareness better. Investing in computer based stuff just seems to make people more spergy.
[deleted] 2y ago
[--removed--]
apeman 2y ago
Just get a pay as you go SIM card and make a new account
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Why banned?
You should aim to have a good dating life...... numbers doesn't matter. 100 numbers and no lays = bad..... 1 number and fuck her round the clock = good.
But here's some very rough statistics for cold approach if you're reasonably attractive and know what you're doing:
Approach 30 girls.... chat a bit with 15.... hit it off with 7...... get 4 numbers..... 2 don't flake.... 1 you end up fucking.
Higher hit rate but lower overall results if you wait for approach invitations. Much higher hit rate at social gatherings / parties.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Oh dude I just found out if you get banned on one app/site by Match Group you get banned on them all. So maybe one of your other accounts caused this. Here's the list of apps/sites they own https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Match_Group#Dating_services_owned
unplugged69 2y ago
They did you a favour, online dating is a total waste of time.
Go out, start frequenting new and cool places, get a new hobby, expand your circle of friends and cold approach just to improve your social skills.
On tinder if you fail you have nothing, this way if you fail you'll still have some new friends, hobbies, experiences, etc. Best girls I've ever dated were found this way
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 2y ago
Did you get reported for muh-soggy-knees due to saying you hate tattoos? Or what?
I'd say relax and don't get too numbers-driven. Enjoy yourself and have fun. If it turns into a grind, if you're not having fun, the women will pick up on that and stay away.
[deleted] 2y ago
[--removed--]
vangelis 2y ago
They keep all your conversations in their database regardless of you unmatching or deleting or whatever. Don't know about the US but in Europe they are obliged to give you a copy of your data if you ask and also delete all of it, again, if you ask
User4566 2y ago
Tinder, HILY, Badoo, give them a shot.
vangelis 2y ago
Tinder is the same company. Pretty sure he's banned from there too now
User4566 2y ago
That explains why I got banned haha
[deleted] 2y ago
[--removed--]
[deleted] 2y ago
[--removed--]
[deleted] 2y ago
[--removed--]
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
This logic is hard to follow if you're getting laid off tinder. I've have some damn good lays off there. Some of my best sexual memories are off tinder
But to each their own
Lionsmane8 2y ago
Lucky you. I've sporadically used OLD over the years and the best i got was thirsty 4-6s. Most the girls there are just there for the free validation and it forces you to think like a weird fashionista attention seeker, which is weird. Finally it can damage your in person game. Basically my in person game shot up since i decided to never use the apps again, much better.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
It's not even about being "lucky" I used it for 2 years with zero success until I got some solid advice from friends that were killing it on there and came up with my own opener-to-setting-a-date strategy
Once I got past the learning curve it was easy. A lot of guys give up and then crusade against dating apps afterwards because sour grapes
Lionsmane8 2y ago
Good for you. To each his own. Direct day game ftw
User4566 2y ago
Maybe you should post a guide. I'm sure it would be a big help to everyone on here that might want to give online dating another go.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
I've linked a comment thread of mine countless times. Doesn't touch on photos or anything because that's been covered ti death by other guides, or what to do on the date because that's just game
https://www.forums.red/p/asktrp/299826/game_on_tinder/7291214
But yeah I suppose I should post an actual guide. Not just link comments
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
This is why I never sexualize conversations on dating apps (unless they do first in the messages so that even they report me it's their fault) and I keep my bio free of stuff that will cause spite reporting
I also immediately unmatch my matches after a bad date so that they can't report me (I think hinge might be different about this but on tinder it works)
You should actually contact hinge and try to find out why you're banned. It's possible they might just restore your account if you are actually just polite to them and try to respectfully inquire what went wrong.
For all you know it could have been an automated process that banned you and not a human moderator
Be respectful to them and just ask them why
[deleted] 2y ago
[--removed--]
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
You sure you didn't say anything bad to a match? This is the number one reason I think you got reported and banned
You might have to figure out how to evade the ban at this point and not only that, but learn from whatever it was. I never game or sexualize convo on dating apps and I'm always polite to matches because I know they could dick me over at any point. I just focus on getting them on the date and unmatch them immediately if the date goes bad
[deleted] 2y ago
[--removed--]
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
Who knows but keep your bio in the future positive and non-judgemental and save your escalation and etc for the actual date
Lionsmane8 2y ago
Don't make the mistake i've doing lately which is over quantify your dating life. It'll just suck up the fun and the girls will pick upon it. That's a recipe for dead texts and flakes. Instead just have a conversation, don't force it. If you feel like saying something say it, if not, it's ok. Once the conversation gets flowing because you have an affinity with a particular girl the number will take care of itself and it will be easier to transition to text then date.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Get yourself a VPN. Connect. Get a different browser and make a new email account. Create a new profile using the VPN, new browser, and email address. Use new photos. In your profile text name your instagram account and put nothing else. There, that's it. Your marketing funnel is complete. Slide over to instagram and follow these instructions https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6XgofT-pQ1w
[deleted] 2y ago
[--removed--]
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Well, like I said, it's done differently nowadays. Hinge does not want you to find a compatible match because then they would lose 2 customers. It's just a place to advertise your personal brand.
vangelis 2y ago
My experience and that of peers tells me if there's a small chance you'll get laid off OLD, then there's probably no chance you'll get laid off IG.
On Tinder they will only filter based on pictures so you can maybe get a few good ones and that's that. On instagram you need to have the following and the places down too because you're competing against a whole other thing
whytehorse2021 2y ago
It all just boils down to marketing. We could all probably make insta accounts and follow each other and like each other's posts and create an exponential wave like Tate did.
User4566 2y ago
Doesn't tinder and hinge use phone numbers to authenticate accounts?
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Probably. They probably also use your device ID.
vangelis 2y ago
What do you mean by device ID? There's no unique ID (such as a serial number or a MAC address) being sent. I think they can get applications installed, version of OS running and resolution and maybe build an ID that way, but I don't think there's much more to it. However if you ask for a copy of your personal data that Tinder has, they're only storing the OS type and the version of the Tinder app
Arcturus 2y ago
Research browser tracking
vangelis 2y ago
It's extremely easy to remove or not use cookies
whytehorse2021 2y ago
If you're using a phone they can get your iOS or android deviceID. If you're using a PC they do browser tracking.
vangelis 2y ago
Not really apparently https://stackoverflow.com/questions/19402327/how-to-get-unique-id-in-ios-device
And like I said in my other response you can delete cookies/ go incognito when it comes to a browser
OPPTRP 2y ago
Use another number
User4566 2y ago
Personally from the looks of it, you need to focus on moving out and finding some roomates. Move to a place that's populated. Let's be real here: even if you didn't get banned, you STILL don't have a ton to chose from. I believe you should prioritize moving to an area where you DON'T have to drive a ridiculously long time just to meet people. Sure, you may have a bit of a dry-spell but what the fuck ever. It will be worth it once you get your shit together.