How do I overcome this bullshit thinking? Recently broke up with LTR and can't stop thinking about her getting every hole filled. 5 years of me treating her like a princess for chad to treat her like a slut.
I want her to get into another LTR, hopefully a successful one so she can have a happy and fulfilled life. But I know it's likely her low impulse control, low self esteem and destructive tendencies may lead her to doing everything that isn't right in the long run. How do I overcome this shit? This beta shit is eating me up from the inside.
drkb 3y ago
Dont be a beta cuck who longs after his ex. Whats past is past. Women can move on no prob why cant you.
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
It was just your turn. You have to dis-invest in her now. She's a relic of your past. I think you're suffering from viewing your own connection to her as cheapened by her potential future actions.
You can't engage in this thinking. What she does after the LTR is her choice. Even if she becomes a raging hoe it's not your fault. Your experience is not lessened by her lower future standards or phase she enters in.
You have to appreciate the time you had and if she does become a giga slut you have to appreciate that you didn't end up marrying her.
Cut all contact and set up boundaries if she's still talking to you. It's hard to not have your ego invested when a girl you were once seeing exclusively is free to be a slut on the market afterwards.
I think in your mind you are still exclusive in a way and it's a real gut punch to have to admit it's over but it is and it's going to sting but you just have to have a radical acceptance of these things and realize your hands are washed clean of it already
apeman 3y ago
I think this is the difficult part, I had a large part of my ego attached to the fact I was with such an attractive and good girl. The fact she's potentially walking the streets now is fucking with me
This is also tough af, I don't think I've fully gotten over the safe state of mind I had knowing this girl who meant so much to me was just mine. Even with my knowledge of AWALT etc. It's crazy to see the painful process it takes to internalize some of these concepts
Lone_Ranger 3 3y ago
This.
Cut all ties. Every one. Delete her contact details. Get rid of all social media.
The only way out is up. onwards and upwards. She is no longer your charge. You're free dude.
Free to live your life....not what might have been etc. Cut all ties immediately and never look back.
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apeman 3y ago
Thanks for the response bro I hope so
User4566 3y ago
Don't think of her. Think of what's next.