How to deal with plates who are getting a bit too comfortable? I have two plates who are low maintenance. No drama, no games, give me everything I want, pick me up and even buy me presents. It sounds cute, but it actually turns me off. How to deal with this?
I've been plating a girl for 4 months, and she's the perfect plate. But she's pushing for a relationship (we haven't had the talk yet, but I can tell by her actions). I was at her place last night and she bought me a present for Christmas. She bought 2 tickets for us for some lame party which were expensive as fuck. I know she barely has money, and she wasted her money on these tickets. I feel kinda bad. Because she wants us to spend time together, and wanted to do something sweet, but in reality I don't want to go to this party with her. She's getting a bit too comfortable. Even wants me to meet her friends and sleep over all the time.
Another plate is the same. Keeps talking to her parents about me. Wants me to meet her family, tells me she loves me (after 3 months of plating) and says she can't imagine a life without me.
These things turn me off. I have a very busy life, and want to focus on my goals. I consider these girls as plates, and told them I'm not looking for anything serious, but it feels like they consider me their boyfriend. I'm not interested in a relationship. Is it time to cut them off and find other plates? What can I do in the future to prevent this from happening? I'm currently meeting multiple women, but it's such a drag to be honest.
Anyone else experiencing this?
mattyanon Admin 3y ago
Ah yeah..... tricky.
This is one of the rare times when you, as the guy, is winning.
There is nothing to feel bad for: every girl under 30 and under 200 pounds has an army of orbiters that she uses to bolster her ego (and often her finances) to give her the fuel to chase Chad (in this case you) - there is nothing innocent or deserving about her, you just happen to be winning. This time. For now.
There's two issues I think:
Are they aware you fuck other women?
Are you ACTING like you fuck other women?
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
If OP doesnt want to either talk it out on his own accord now or wait until they bring it up, this here is the answer. There is nothing wrong with talking openly about your relationship with a girl as long as you understand frame control and dont start DEERing when she gets upset or challenges you.
Acting way more alpha after a period of having acted too beta is sure to get you into the talk quick.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Yeah well the normal evolutionary-biological imperative is to have as many kids as possible. This requires impregnating hordes of women and then having cucks raise them. So you gotta find a delicate balance of being the guy who cums in them but not the guy who gets saddled with the child.
Keep in mind these chicks probably have many guys who want a serious relationship and would make great boyfriends. Instead they choose the guy who doesn't want anything serious because he's hawt or whatever.
wheytosmall 3y ago
First of all, congrats . You’ve basically mastered the art of spinning plates.
What do you tell these girls when they ask you “what are we”? Maybe these plates are getting the impression that you guys are exclusive.