So things have been just a little rocky with my LTR recently. Nothing alarming, but I recognize we need to spend more quality time together, Ive been working a lot. Shes stressed at work. Sex life is good no shit tests. I run a tight ship. But just this morning I invited her to an out-of-state trip to Florida, we can relax on the beach, have some drinks and unwind, go to a country concert of a band we both like.
I thought she would be super happy about it, but it took her about 5 hours to reply to my text and she said "How? Its really far blah blah". My initial reaction was that she doesnt want to go and trying to make excuses and i was a little bothered by her lack of enthusiasm about my "surprise" trip.
I responded that I can book some flights, ill pick her up from work. And she hasnt replied yet. I know shes at home right now. About 30 minutes ago I got a little frustrated and almost texted her something that would prompt an argument, saying I feel unappreciated or whatever. Im just not sure if im being unreasonable and entitled to a quick response, i know she has her own life, she cant just drop 3 days off from her world last-minute. Recently she told me she wanted to create a lot of moments with me, loves being with me, etc. I just want to call her out on "playing games" or not following on her word but it seems petty
But the other part of me told myself that she is probably thinking about how to make it happen and doesnt want to text me until she gets everything figured out. Realistically I am expecting some excuse tomorrow. I would just appreciate if I can get a "Yes" or a "No" and not be left on read, thinking im being taken for granted, dont want to double text and seem needy. Seems like a bad move. Dont want to start an argument if she was going to say yes tomorrow morning.
Question to ASKTRP......
If I invite an LTR out to a weekend trip spontaneously, how long should I give them to make a decision before I can call them out? I have a tendency to feel taken for granted in past relationships when I do things like this and get bad communication during logistics. Its happened a few times in the past with other LTR's. When I was younger I even dumped one for it, but I learned my lesson. When I get bad communication from LTR during logistics I tend to think the worst. I spoke to an ex about this when i was younger, and she said it made me look super selfish when I dumped her over bad communication because i felt taken for granted (she didnt see my side).. she said it makes it seem like the world revolves around me. Sometimes i dont take girls serious but sometimes I think you can learn from your mistakes. Now when Im in situations like this im not sure if im being entitled or not.
Its just behavior I expect from plates or casual dating with flaky girls. I get frustrated when established LTR's do this.
delesseyM 3y ago
First thing first, medium is the message don't rely on her words. Second thing, you should ask this type of questions about vacations on phone call or personally, as you pay a good amount of money for it. I would call her up, no need to think you're being needy because she left you on read, that's woman behavior. Third. You can trip on your own.
SeasonedRP 2 3y ago
She responded in the manner women often do when they don't want to do something. She doesn't want to go. She might go anyway but I wouldn't bring it up again.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Don't need a big fancy trip to spend quality time together. If you want to go hang on the beach and see a concert to unwind then by all means do it. Tell her she's welcome to join if she wants. Otherwise maybe the next weekend you two can netflix and chill or whatever.