I went out with this cutie and having a good time. I encouraged her to go off whenever she said "I want to get a drink". I simply say that's fine I'll be over here doing this thing im doing. I assume if she's approached while she's gone, and doesn't come back, then whatever.
I look back and see she's talking to someone. It's a guy, decent in appearance etc. They are right next to me and everyone's smiling.
I even made it a point to smile when I turned and said hi to the guy she was talking to. What I thought at that moment was since I wasn't acting like a jealous asshole, I wouldn't appear insecure. I didn't really think on it, it just happened. I included myself and was being friendly.
He didn't say much else and walked off. The conversation didn't last long at all. No fights, no "that's mine bro" etc
But now when I think of it, I'm not so sure I should've done anything at all and focused on my things. I want to say I was trying to be cool fun guy who DGAF but not sure if that's my male hamster rationalizing what I did in that moment.
Johndoe 3y ago
I had something similar happen to my on a my last date w one of my plates, i took a completely different approach. Long story short we were at a bar and some guy joined our group (now a group of 3) and started hittin on the chick i was with. Now i dont really give af what she does on her own time but if she is out with me, she is goint to respect me. Low and behold i left the two of them at the bar and she started chasing after me. I know they probably hooked up the next night or whatever but while shes out with me shes with me. Or i walk. Curious on what people think if this notion, anything less feels like im letting some other guy take my "food".
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
I don't think that was bad at all.
Being aggressive, looking pissed, is bad of course.
Ignoring her, that's not ideal either.
In between, making sure she's not getting attacked, letting her know she's free to do whatever.
Seemed fine to me.
What did she say, or act afterward? If no difference about it, it was fine.
Dxmx99 3y ago
No difference and I'm pretty sure I said something like "He seemed cool" and went back to chumming and smashed later. That was before I got back into RP theory where I've been more focused on gym and work and have had little desire for sex/relationships until recently meeting a few girls. Something in my head clicked on and now I'm reloading my brain with Red pill
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
seemed a good situation. Now, she could have got his info and smashed him later, But so what, she's just a plate for now, right?
gotta look at it that way, abundance, DNGAF, until you are committed. And take your sweet time getting their and be very picky about who you do so with.
good luck
fumbor Should i (x1) 3y ago
I think you're way overthinking it brother. You did a good job in my opinion. It would have been a lot worse if you acted territorial.
craftsmanmindset 3y ago
If you guys aren't official, then you can't do anything. You did the right thing.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
I try to resist all temptation to mate gaurd unless I cold approached the girl that night and am trying to make sure she stays mine.
If I already know the girl I try not to do anything resembling mate guarding because I want to know that I'm actually a preference to her. I don't want to be interacting and investing time into a girl who gets distracted by every piece of solid eye candy out there
If it's a first date and she's taking to another dude like that then I don't want to be in the date any more. It's not a date if she's mingling.
I use my judgement but past a cold approach I let the chips fall where they do.
I don't think you were wrong for going back up to someone you went to out with. The premise is that you are there for each other that night.
Also. Keep in mind the guy probably approached her and she didn't want to be a dick to him. Women will keep a convo going with a guy sometimes and the second she breaks free of it she may never want to chat to him again. Women will engage in Convo reciprocally just to feel safe