Title sums it up, but I will definitely elaborate to make it clear.
I've made tremendous progress this year - from someone that used to play video games 20-30 hours a week to pretty much 0, no porn, minimised jacking off, built good habits, started to consistently hit the gym and eating more and it's safe to say this year was amazing. On top of that, I went from not even having a single girl that I would talk to even in person to meeting numerous (even if it is just generic talking at my hobby), becoming more confident and making out with one a few times recently.
Now I know this is the bare fucking minimum, I bet someone is reading and thinking to themselves "you're trying to brag about this?", no, I'm not, but I can tell that my success/growth comes exponentially, so I'm really fucking close to 'breaking through', so to speak.
I have noticed something I am not the greatest at though, and it links to essentially the first girl I made out with - we met at the hobby to which I go to, BUT we were introduced to eachother by our mutual friend, and it made me think about how many opportunities I might've missed by not approaching or just not being 'comfortable' (side note - which isn't as big of a concern as it used to be, but it still lingers).
That situation made me realise that clearly I am capable of attracting, vibing and actually allowed me to feel like a functioning guy - a year ago I honestly would've not even thought I would be talking to any women still. I was worried about meeting more people (still am but at least now I've got a hobby where I can meet more) and didn't imagine myself here today.
I'll end with the rambling - I've got a few questions, but I would ask of you to give as much detail/depth and ideally examples as possible, as that's the best way I learn and grasp concepts. Also, I am mostly aware of the 'basic principles', I just need that depth;
- How do I go about making that first interaction fun, enjoyable and somewhat memorable, and build that (potential) connection?
- What are the best ways to develop and learn flirting/game? I know that practice makes perfect, but any food for thought or pointers would be amazing.
- I am based in the U.K., from my understanding, cold approaching/day game is not a good idea, best way is supposedly meeting women through mutual friends, but my circles are still small, or slightly older (I'm turning 23 in a few months, and probably the youngest guy in the hobby group, people typically range from like late twenties to late thirties), is this true? If not, what is the best resource to learn day game/cold approaching, and where and how to do it?
- Logistics aren't in my favour either, no car yet and I live in a 60k town.
Thanks in advance, I really do believe I'm extremely close to finally getting to that stage where I know I am capable of attracting women and actually going beyond just making out, hook ups eventually and into potentially something more serious.
edit; I don't use dating apps (yet) for three reasons; I don't take many pictures, my texting game isn't the greatest for now and I prefer to meet people organically as it's more likely to be bit more meaningful and I have their full attention at the time, as opposed to being in constant competition with dozens of dudes on OLD.
craftsmanmindset 2y ago
I have a few pieces of advice here. First, ask questions that let down her guard. Second, have a flirting, relaxed, and seductive persona. Third, laugh and joke around.
I would recommend going about your day to day life. Join hobby groups, join clubs, etc. If you are good looking join tinder. Then if you see an opportunity, take it.
Focus on building your income dawg.
TRPPRT2021 2y ago
Soz for the late response - thank you!
How would I go about your first point? As in, what questions let her guard down, how do Ihave a flirting, relaxed and seductive persona and thirdly, laugh and joke around? I know some of this sounds like autistic level type of shit, but do you have any examples? I find that I learn best from examples :)
craftsmanmindset 2y ago
When you find yourself asking autistic level questions, that's when you need to go out into the field and learn for yourself :)
These general theoretical tips start making sense once you have enough mental examples to go off on your own.
Peter_Henderson 2y ago
Practice practice practice!
Search for Uncle Visaya's guide on reddit.
https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/k0whd1/interview_with_vasiliyzaitzev/
https://www.reddit.com/r/UncleVasya/comments/vkk3lb/uncle_vaz_advice_for_young_men_things_my_father/
https://www.reddit.com/user/VasiliyZaitzev/submitted/?sort=top
Uncle Vas is the only selfless guy you can trust.
TRPPRT2021 2y ago
Thanks! Soz for the late reply, but I cant seem to access some of those, or other links from older archives :/
whytehorse2021 2y ago
You have to put your dick in them and then cum to form a bond.
DeanG30 2y ago
• How do I go about making that first interaction fun, enjoyable and somewhat memorable, and build that (potential) connection?
Create emotional fluidity. An emotional reaction from a woman is the thing that makes a girl like you. If she commits to an emotion she’s investing in the interaction.
• What are the best ways to develop and learn flirting/game? I know that practice makes perfect, but any food for thought or pointers would be amazing. Flirty banter, tease her as this sets the frame that you’re a little bit cooler than her and shows you’re used to being around women. For example, a pushback method is saying something like ‘you and I aren’t going to get a long’
• I am based in the U.K., from my understanding, cold approaching/day game is not a good idea, best way is supposedly meeting women through mutual friends, but my circles are still small, or slightly older (I'm turning 23 in a few months, and probably the youngest guy in the hobby group, people typically range from like late twenties to late thirties), is this true? If not, what is the best resource to learn day game/cold approaching, and where and how to do it?
Approaching is not a bad thing as long as you do it with confidence, tactful and in the right settings. Make use of places in and around you that you can get to with transport, or with friends.
TRPPRT2021 2y ago
Thanks! And soz for the late response - would you be able to go in depth (even just a little) with flirty banter and getting an emotional reaction? Like what topics should I think about? Just some food for thought that I can dissect myself :)