So a plate I was fucking for about two years now, albeit on and off, finally has a bf.
Told me she still misses me and admires me and was even going to go out for dinner but changed her mind last minute saying she didn’t want to ruin it with her bf because she’s happy.
I definitely had feelings for her (not in a beta way), so this took me as a surprise. Great Fuck, always maintained frame, just didn’t give her much time (my fault). She was even cool with having 3sums with me.
She says she got tired of waiting for me and only seeing me once a month.
Is it possible she’ll come back or could she be genuinely happy? She said she hopes we can still be cool and maybe in the future we can hang out.
What’s TRP view on plates leaving for BF’s?
Peter_Henderson 3y ago
You realize women lie and manipulate men right?
She's trying to keep you interested in her since she's insecure and wants to keep you as an option for her to branch swing in case she needs to bail on her new boyfriend.
Nich2022 3y ago
Yeah but when I wanted to hang out she said no at the last minute she cause she didn’t want to hurt him.
Peter_Henderson 3y ago
I'm a linguist with a PhD in that shit. I chose my words carefully:
It's like if you are a squirrel or chipmunk and you binge-fed on like 100 acorns and you're so fucking shit-faced from over-eating that you bury 5-10 acorns in the ground "for later" so that you have the option to eat them later (if you want to, but you aren't obligated to). Do you feel me?
She wants to make you AN OPTION only.
Option means "you can, but not necessarily will".
That is why she's keeping you interested in her -- but at the same time, she's choosing not to hang out with you -- however, she has manipulated you into being willing to hang out with her at some uncertain date in the future -- but only if SHE feels like it. You have been converted into an "option" bro so just live with it and don't deny it.
Nich2022 3y ago
So what’s the best option? I despise rejection from someone who i used to bang. The nerve of her haha
Peter_Henderson 3y ago
Even though this sounds like a simple question, it's massively complex. I'm a bit of a "control freak" and I try to manipulate as much power to myself as possible in all my relationships & friendships.
However, you probably aren't me -- so I'll give you an answer that's relevant to you. Here is my answer:
My answer is to minimalize your "emotional investment" and "feelings" about her. If you don't care for her a lot, then being rejected by her will feel very small & inconsequential.
Plus the less you care about a girl (ask any TRP-bro if you don't trust this paragraph and they will "vouch" for it being true), the more she will want your attention, validation, and to have you care about her.
The less you care about a girl, the more she will be attracted to you!
Therefore I have given you 1 answer and 2 reasons for why I believe it is the best option for you.
pofkaf 1 3y ago
If/when she breaks up with her new man, she'll probably hit you up. It might be next month, it might be two years from now. Depending on how your life is going at that time...act accordingly.
Nich2022 3y ago
she was a good lay and was down for anything sexually, she even mentioned she’d want a guy who’d let her fuck other guys. Clearly he doesn’t allow that
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Nich2022 3y ago
She said she’d want a guy who’d let her fuck other guys. Apparently he doesn’t allow it.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
She's happy she has a beta bf
She actually wants more, she wanted you, but she couldn't get you and knows it.
She probably wants to keep you around for when she tires of the bf, or breaks up, she'd want to hang/f with you, until another bf comes along. Kind of like a FB.
Nich2022 3y ago
He must not be beta if she doesn’t want to hang out anymore due to the fact it might hurt him.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
? not sure what you mean.
Nich2022 3y ago
I’m saying he must not be that beta if she’s saying she’s happy with him
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
Oh, women can be happy for a beta for awhile and quite awhile depending upon circumstances.
Like , she needs drama and needs to vent to a guy willing to take it, this guy does,etc. she's happy, for awhile.
At some point, she's not gonna be most likely
Shit, some women like being the dominant, not many , but some for sure. Ever wonder why so many female lawyers are miserable?
whytehorse2021 3y ago
You're her orbiter. Move on.
Nich2022 3y ago
I was already fucking her for two years, just not as much because I was busy with other women. I thought an orbiter was someone who hasn’t fucked a girl yet with hopes to.
She even bought me things and helped with business.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
OK, you're her backup plan then.
Nich2022 3y ago
I miss fucking her, she was a good slut. Should I keep trying? Or hope she eventually gets bored with her bf who’s giving her more than I could?
whytehorse2021 3y ago
I would just soft next her. She may come back, may not, but at least you moved on.