So I met this girl outside of a bar at 2 am Sat night, and fucked her that night. She left for work early Sun morning, and she came over again Sunday night because she forgot stuff at my house, and we cuddled/made out, because we wanted to and were dead tired so no fucking, slept like 2 hours max.
Should I have her come over Tursday/Friday this week? Too soon, 3 times in a week? I want to make her a plate, and she seems receptive, saying to let her know if I want her to come over again. I don't want to seem like I have nothing going on though if I hit her up Fri (I know thats probably overthinking but...)
I am a bit of a noob/late bloomer, as you can tell by the question. Ive slept w/ 5-6 girls but 3 of those have been in the past month.
What do you think
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
I don't even really reach out for second plans any more. I kind of just alude that I might want to see them again through subtleties or bait them into knowing when I'm kind of free or what I'll be doing soon and let them game themselves.
I stopped giving a shit about trying to reach out to girls I fucked and it's worked so much better than trying to make plans with them
I got ghosted too many times by reaching out after giving them really good sex and the good sex still wasn't enough to save me because they knew they had me by the balls because I was the one reaching out. No amount of orgasms and long sex you can give a woman overrides the thirst and need for a relationship you convey by wanting to see them again
It's fucking stupid but that's been my experience when I reach out, no matter how much ecstacy they were in while we fucked
A woman's insecurity that you might not make plans again is so much more effective at convincing them to invest in seeing you again than actually being the one to try to see them again
If I've seen them a few times already I start reaching out a bit for plans but definitely not early stages of the first couple of times we've fucked
68great 1y ago
Thanks. To be clear she has been initiating the texts, so not worried about getting ghosted really, just want to keep my percieved value high. She told me today to hit her up if I want to hang again, and I told her "maybe later this week" already. Is Thursday/Friday too soon?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
That's not too soon. She initiated.
Don't overthinking too soon. I know guys that pull the same chick 3 nights in a row
68great 1y ago
Thanks bro appreciate it. Overthinking is a problem of mine for sure.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
No problem man
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
This was on purpose. Probably something fairly insignificant. Not wallet or keys or phone.
Ok, here's the thing about this:
Don't agree to "rolling dates". Never "every Friday", and don't agree to see her before she leaves your company. Make sure there are 2-3 days between seeing her and agreeing to a new date. Women will try to fuck this up and arrange to see you again straight away, it's your job to say "not sure / busy / I'll let you know". Agreeing the next date straight away is ok occasionally, but you don't want to do it regularly. Creates too much attachment and security and expectation.
Then, when arranging the next date, you need to sprinkle in some "Can't do Friday, how about Sunday". Keep it random, maintain control, keep seeing other girls, maintain a little distance.
The more often you see a girl, the harder this is, but it can be done.
68great 1y ago
A little late on my end but thank you man. This comment was what I was looking for. going to hit her up tomorrow.
No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
Found a gold nugget right here, gentlemen.