Think of the big super-smooth black guy that tends bar and literally touches everyone for any reason. Now you're him.

Your biggest challenge is push-pull, because if you misread you will be too aggressive and make the girl turtle. You want to make sure you are getting some kind of touch back, even even its just an arm brush before escalating.

Touching is a dopamine hit, even from the handshake, so you can also exploit moments to create tension. "Let me read your palm for a moment." Trace all the lines gently for 30 secs. "It looks good.." "No I'm not a fortune teller, I was just looking for signs of genetic diseases."

"Hold still, close your eyes." Wait a second. Gently brush her cheek with your finger. Blow softly, as she squirms wondering what you'll do. "Fuck, I want to kiss you right now. I think I just stole your wish." If she opens her eyes and doesn't pull back, lean in half the distance to her lips, brush the hair away from her neck with your fingertips and give her a soft kiss on the neck underneath her ear.

In push-pull, never force the kiss. Never hold her face or hair or kiss her so she can't pull away. Doing so makes them cagey, and they will turtle up. Always let her close the gap and effectively initiate the kiss after you've set the conditions. Make sure to vocalize your approval and validation after the kiss... "Oh Fuck.. you've got a pretty smile." "Oh Fuck... you taste like strawberries." "Oh Fuck... your lips are soft." Just pick something that's true and be excited about it.

Then just take a step back and put your arm around her side. "Wow. For a girl, you're pretty fuckin' awesome." If she leans in, let her head sink in against your chest and pet her hair. If she doesn't lean in, let your hand brush over her arm and hand as you pull away. If she turns her head back up to you and looks into your eyes... lean in close and let her kiss you again.

For me regret did it. I don’t have a ton of experience but first girl I dated was a Hb8 and was super dtf. I just never set up a good situation or setting to fuck. And the few times it was I was a pussy and didn’t escalate. That was over a year ago and afterwards I haven’t had a problem with kino since.

You're afraid because you have no experience. Once you gain experience you will realize it's not that big a deal and it's normal when done properly.

Start with VERY incidental touches.

Like if you are trying to get their attention (from the side), emphasizing a point, touching their arm when they laugh, etc

This is normal social behavior unless you like stare at your hand while doing it, that's just creepy.

Just do incidental touches (be careful if just trying to get their attention, you should at least know the chick and it should be from an angle that doesn't startle them

I touch girls I know from behind because they are in a venue where they get touched on the back a lot anyway but that's a whole different scenario.

Just be socially intelligent.

After you get used to it start going for the more intimate touches like hand on hip/lower back/around the shoulder etc

I used to be afraid I'd get a sexual harassment complaint when I first started kino but women don't give a fuck if you touch them appropriately and if they are really into you they won't give a fuck if you touch them more flirtatiously

Just get used to the bare minimum basic social kino that everyone does but don't over do it. No girl is gonna even register that you use basic social touch unless you make such a repeated pattern of it in a short interaction that she knows you're just trying to touch her