Heres a very brief summary of an other-wise deep conversation:
Girlfriend has been acting suspicious, I went through her phone a month ago and discovered this. Many people recommended breaking up but i wanted to see this unfold first. 1 month later heres the final conversations:
Girlfriends ex has been trying to get back with her for 1 month now. He texted her wanting to talk, she said she has someone now. Eventually they spoke about their past relationship over text, she got a bit emotional, puppy eyes emojies, "how did things end this way". She even admitted to wanting to have a more stable relationship with him, that he wanted only fun and nothing serious. He told her he wanted a stable relationship with her, but that hes moving to Bali next month, wanted her to come with him for a year.
She seemed open to it initally saying she has never been out of the country before, told him she would think about it and that she lives with her brother and has to think about many things. No mention of me. Eventually he gave her a few weeks to think and didnt bother her over text, recently he asked her again to follow up, and she said "I told you I already have someone" He never replied after that one.
Guys I have a question:
Many many people here commented that she wasnt loyal. Hes the one that got away, shes always going to be thinking about him while with me. At the end of the convo she refused to meet up with him after all the attempts, based off their convo it sounded like his final try. She even at the very end of his final hail mary, told him that she has someone.
***What do I do? Do I still leave her now. Should I be happy she rejected him and never met up with him once?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
The fact that she has had to even think about this and secretly entertain it for this long is a deal breaker.
Find a girl where you are the prize
It's up to you man, evaluate the he strength of your relationship apart from this but it sickens me for you
Hanamiya 3y ago
utterly disgusting, break up if you respect yourself
XMRLover 3y ago
lmao, you poor sweet beta.
YES, you should break up with a girl who cheated on you. Go no contact. Fuck a lot of other women. Hit the gym. Go get a fucking bag.
Hanscheezburger 3y ago
You been reading her text?
This might or might not happen but I've seen guys who do it.
He'd have depression, a car accident, his grandma died or some shit like that. He'd ask to see her one last time because the pain is too much.
Now if your girl says no to that, you're pretty safe. But if they meet, you know what would happen. That's why talking with ex is a BIG no and you should make it clear at the start of the relationship - if she keeps contact with her ex, you're done
Bagpipes 3y ago
Im confused, where was this in the convo? Are you saying if he says something like this, she may give in?
Hanscheezburger 3y ago
Yes. I said it might or might not happen but I've seen guys do that. If convincing doesn't work then they'd try to beg for sympathy. Your girl has been talking with the guy for way too long and I hope you have backup plans ready
Pfizer 3y ago
So she checked this branch but its to weak to swing permanently, she might call him in amoment of 'weakness' only.
Now she will be looking for new attention source.
Unfortunately abundance of messaging platforms make it impossible to see what need.to be seen 100%.
ACCESS to platform he'S got, supposed to serve as a benchmark to what happens on other platforms + IRL.
bonus813 3y ago
What makes the ex’s branch hard to swing? Just the instability and uncertainty of moving countries? Just curious
Pfizer 3y ago
Most accurate answer is in her head.
Its not she wouldn't do it, its the guy didn't play her well. If guy would play it better shed be riding him few weeks ago.
He sounded well too thirsty and overinvesting. That definitely went bad for him. I cant see her being loyal just not getting wet on ex game.
bonus813 3y ago
I mean who knows? My interpretation is that he was too alpha for her in a bad way, he was the fun guy. He came back around promising commitment but it just so happened he was moving and invited her after he realized she’s more than just another girl.
She even considered moving with him, didn’t say No or even mention Op. there was definitely some genuine thought on her end and she decided to not go I believe not because of Chads game but maybe moving countries with an ex and uprooting her life was too bold of a risk.
I think he had to be more beta and that may be interpreted as beta?
If he had no game and she had no interest she 100% would Have told him to move on or fuck off. That’s just how girls are in happy relationships. I think his branch was a risky swing when she took everything into account like moving into Bali I assume Op is American that’s on the other side of the world
A branch swing is not just commitment, but also a “smooth transition”
We don’t know why they broke up but they’re an ex for a reason and it sounds like moving countries for an unstable relationship was a dealbreaker.
She’s technically back with the safe guy, OP. She’s gonna act as if nothing happened too. I don’t think she’s with OP because she loves him more but because she decided the change was too big or intimidating, she may just like America period and her life and family here
Pfizer 3y ago
Could be: time ago. Now he was more of a simp. Who takes a woman on Bali (fuckplace) that he didn't even fuck recently (unless he did, he SIMPs or rightout lies to score. Simping most likely.)
Yep. Read it again, how does it sound for alpha guy.
You find so cool excuses I would think you are the OP and want to d8scuds it avoiding scrutiny.