I feel like I'm the kind of dude that has to see the girls a lot before I get comfortable enough to escalate (or it doesn't feel natural even for me) because if I try to escalate too fast or be direct too fast it feels like it won't pass at all.

Right. Common problem.

Here's how this feels from the girl's point of view:

• He doesn't find me attractive
• I don't feel attractive around him
• He seems like a good friend
• Is he waiting for permission to touch me??? Fucking weak
• I'm bored, I'll check my phone.

don't manage to be comfortable enough to be direct enough or I just don't know what to do or say.

Right.

Don't wait to escalate..... ESCALATE TO FIND OUT...... women will let you know if they are into it or not. You want to be touching, teasing, backing off pretty much straight away. Girls find this HOT..... the trick is to do it, tease, back off, ignore, do it, back off, ignore, and never react badly or feel uncomfortable doing it.

You're not going to be grabbing her tits first off. Start with normal social touching (eg upper arm).... then move on to not-sexual not-quite-not-sexual-either..... each arm around waist.

It feels weird at first that you don't need permission to do this, but you really don't. It's fine.

Regular girls just puzzle me because if I'm too direct they just don't seem interested and if I take my time they think I'm a pussy and already lose interest

Right..... so do push/pull..... literally pull her close then push her away...... show disinterest then make a reason to show disinterest.

I literally feel to anxious to make bold moves if I'm not in several dates and the girl is heavily flirting and making it painfully obvious she wants me,

Escalation ladder (make up your own according to your customs and country):

• Hand touch
• Arm touch
• Waist touch
• Thigh touch
• Ass squeeze

Each time you go to the next level, you immediately back off all the way to the bottom, working your way back up. The idea is to keep pushing "too far", but only briefly. Then having established the previous level, you move on to the next one, but you back off and tease her in between.

This is EXTREMELY EFFECTIVE. It's so effective that you don't need to be good at it ........ get this even half right and you'll be fucking her before you know it.

there's no 'proper' way to do it. Each girl reacts differently to speed of escalation based on how much they like you. If there really was some sort of guaranteed secret recipe, everybody would be using it

the only 'right' way to escalate is not to go from 0-100 and risk a sexual harassment report. Otherwise, it's a numbers game and you get better as you practice