22 yo .Long story short met a girl chatted for 10 mins , asked her for a coffee. Got her number chatted for 2 days, context was good, late replies did the same. Asked her out to certain day she said she is working that day and shell text me when she is available next week. I'll reply "ok good luck on your work"and next her and let her return. Even though I am sure she wont.
I know there are a lot of experienced people here. So do you guys have any certain behaviours or signs that tell you to cut it off. How do you know if it is a shit test or not. Personally I tried to stay patient on this one with the replies but still cant seem to differentiate wheter if it is a test or i am making these in my mind and coping when there is none and become lost in this train of thought.
Thank you all for your answers.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Move on right away. It's called a soft next. If she's not showing interest, find new plates. Never sit around waiting for a woman. Who knows, maybe next week Chad will bail on her and she'll come calling you but by then you've been on 3 dates and smashed or whatever.
jonejona202 3y ago
So while soft nexting whats the best choice.Should i text sporadically during that time or just apply no contact rule ?
lurkerhasarisen 1 3y ago
You don't burn a bridge you may want to cross in the future, but you shouldn't spend the infrastructure budget maintaining it, either.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
It's not a no contact thing. It's a soft next. You just move on to other women. Maybe she contacts you, maybe she doesn't.
Durek_The_Bald 3y ago
Doesn't matter if it's a shit test or the real deal, your response is the same: soft next. Everything is set for her to text you when she's available next week. If she's into you, she'll make sure to do it. It'll be on her mind.
Women will completely embarrass themselves to get with a guy they're into, so for her to just follow up on something she already said she'd do, and which was a 100% natural thing to say in that context, is very low risk to her as for potentially losing face. If she won't do that, she isn't even remotely interested in you.
jonejona202 3y ago
Yeah they ll do everything to get him but what makes me feel strange is that the communication with her was close to the other girls that i ended up dating.Thats why i feel so confused.Since i am a beginner i used to hard next everytime i saw this kind of behaviour and i realized it was wrong.This is the first time i am trying something else.
Durek_The_Bald 3y ago
You're overthinking, and jumping to conclusions. Just wait and see if she'll text you back to meet next week, or to keep you warm or whatever. And in the meantime, you work towards other options. If she texts you back to meet up, then good. If she doesn't, then it's not like you sat on your arse.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
Personally, I give them a solid chance or two to respond and if they don't I move on
Also, if I've only just texted a girl and not even fucked or anything they are a low priority. At that stage I'm already ready to let go of it's not moving anywhere, it's just texting
No-Stress-Cat 3y ago
Out of sight, out of mind, young brother.