I have been in a relationship with this HB8 (to me) for about a year and a half. We're both in our mid 20s and shes 2 years older. It has not been long since I've found rp and I've definitely never broken up with a gf without it happening mid big fight.
We have had our issues ever since we got together but I fell hard as she was the hottest girl I had ever been with.
There have been a two instances of physical abuse from her; biting, scratching, and slapping in the face. Each time I dropped her but she came back and begged and cried and eventually I took her back.
Aside from that she will breakup or at least talk about breaking up every time she is mad. This happens usually once a week and has been going on the entire relationship.
Or even when she doesn't break up she gets super pissy and passive aggressive and stonewalls me for the rest of the day.
I've caught her in some lies and twisted stories. I.e. Stories that happened on this day but actually happened on this day.
She will blow up over the smallest shit. Example I'm late 20 mins getting home from hanging with my friends and she blows up and treats me like I killed her puppy and she hates me.
I catch myself just feeling miserable, resentful, and unhappy.
Even with all this and me rationally knowing that this is not good for my mental state I really find it hard to break up and let go. This is why I always take her back when she comes crying and begging.
This was mainly for me to get my head straight but can someone slap some sense into me. Why do I complicate my life this way.
EDIT: It's done. Just dropped her at her place with her stuff.

lurkerhasarisen 1 3y ago
Because you have oneitis and at some level you like drama.
Should you break up with a woman who physically assaults you?
OF COURSE YOU SHOULD!
The other stuff is also sufficient reason to drop her, by the way, but staying with a woman who physically attacks you ends with you in a hospital or a prison. Get. Out.
BPChump 3y ago
Appreciate it. All done. Just dropped her and her stuff at her place
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BPChump 3y ago
She's been lying to me
She slept with a guy after we broke up the most recent time. She begged for me back a week later first and when I said no she went to a guys house and fucked him. She told me a story but turns out it was a lie.
lurkerhasarisen 1 3y ago
Okay... all you're doing is listing more reasons why you ought to dump her when you already have more than enough.
Stop asking for advice and do what you know you need to do. Why are we even having this conversation? Unless you bail out and stay out, sooner or later the cops will get involved, and it will NOT go well for you.
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BPChump 3y ago
I wish I was lmfao. It's that bad from your perspective?
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BPChump 3y ago
She didn't even tell me until recently. She threw it in my face during a fight. Whole reason I'm where I'm at right now. Convincing myself to move on.
BPChump 3y ago
The more I type the more deluded I sound. Shit I've fallen pretty far
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BPChump 3y ago
Not diagnosed with anything. She does go very hot and cold. Between loving the ground I walk on and hating my guts and unable to look at me.
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BPChump 3y ago
Quick google of the signs, looks like I could be. Especially the part where I'm unhappy but it's really hard to end.
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BPChump 3y ago
Yeah the days after a big fight or breakup would always feel amazing. Life everything was perfect and she'd be on her best behaviour.
BPChump 3y ago
How should I deal with the withdrawls I have every time we breakup then?
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BPChump 3y ago
It's done. Just dropped her and her stuff at her place.
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Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
"this usually happens once a week and has been going on entire relationship"
Dude, I don't think I'd put up with that more than once. The first time, I'd clearly and calmly set my expectations and boundaries with her. If it happened again, Next.
This is not a healthy relationship, find better.
Look, there's all kinds of relationships, especially when young, many help you learn about yourself, about couples dynamics, about what you want and what you don't want.
This is one you don't want, you move on from those real fast.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Don't forget to delete and block her. Head out and find a new woman ASAP. Maybe a halloween party or whatever.
BPChump 3y ago
Thanks man, I have blocked her everywhere and I have a girl coming over tonight. Had a big night with my friends last night. Things have been good so far.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Nice, keep moving forward and never look back.
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BPChump 3y ago
It's done. Just dropped her and her stuff at her place.
IHateNames 3y ago
What makes you think slight bpd
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No-Stress-Cat 1 3y ago
Yeah, I'd kick her to the curb before you end up with a knife in your gut, or boiling water poured over your face while you're sleeping.
BPChump 3y ago
Her anger issues does worry me.
BPChump 3y ago
It's done. Just dropped her and her stuff at her place.
No-Stress-Cat 1 3y ago
Good man. No contact. Ever again. You have better prospects waiting for you out there.