What a bad date man... we've been seeing each other for about a month or so, things were great. She called me to meet up tonight and I went even though I was tired.
The date didn't flow that well, we weren't really in the mood (or at least myself) at the and we just hugged, didn't even kiss.
Did this kill her attraction? How should I proceed from here?
Axlerod9999 3y ago
Always remember you could be dead. And will eventually definitely die. It doesn't really matter how the date went. There will be another day and another woman. Even if it takes a year
financehardo420 3y ago
Memento mori
unplugged69 3y ago
It happens but next time go on dates when you're feeling it, don't be afraid to reject them it's actually good to do it once in a while
Here you showed weak frame by agreeing even though you weren't really up for it
Additionally you probably had weak frame throughout the night and didn't do the right things, you didn't escalate, you waited until the end of the date to make physical contact
Now learn from this experience! Your best bet is to back off and stop contacting her or you'll look even more beta. Go game other chicks, you clearly don't have any plates if you're posting about her
If she starts texting you again only reply back when you feel it or when she says something you like. Leave her on read and let her double text, it's good. And if she doesn't text just focus on new women, chasing her won't help
iuliuscaesar 3y ago
I probably got oneitis at this point to be honest, chick is a straight dime in my eyes.
I went out with 2 other chicks during this time but they were like a 7 and an 8, it's just not the same, you know?
I'm not really confident that I'll pull another girl of her caliber.
unplugged69 3y ago
Well think about it this way, before you pulled this 10 you didn't think you could do it but you did. Now you have proof you can do it, and having done it once it will be easier the second time. That rule applies to everything.
helpfulguy22 3y ago
Recently had a date like that, shit happens man, we feel tired from work burnt out and don’t have the energy. My suggestion is only do dates in days you feel like it, if you have to force your self it prolly won’t go well.
Besides she called u and u agreed to go that very day, that puts u in a weak position, like u are always available. Don’t do that, only do that if you are 100% sure you will get sex.
iuliuscaesar 3y ago
Should I contact her in a few days and see where she stands?
helpfulguy22 3y ago
Na give her some space maybe a week, if u have her in ur socials like insta, post on ur story ur doing stuff having fun, so she knows it’s not a big deal to u, then in a week, hit her up and ask to chill again, if she is hesitant then u know she’s gone, in that point say no problem and move onto the next girl.