Stats ' 6ft 1, take roids, muscular, handsome, get told i'm hot and handsome, been approached by girls. I make a lot of money own 2 houses BMW as well. Have friends. social life. Im red pilled, on my game, always improving. My girl cheated on me and broke up with me. She was a 5-6/10 range and all my friends said i could do way better. I feel crushed, how could this happen? mathematically it makes no sense
I feel so shit despite how good i am.
fuegobuttstuff 3y ago
Bro if you are what you say you are and she's a 6 wtf are you doing. She cheated on you because she doesn't respect you. Something is wrong with your game that made her not respect you and if she's a 5/6 then something is really wrong.
Self reflect until you find it. You likely have a blind spot. Ask yourself why a certain group or certain type of person socially rejects you and your answer is probably that. Internalize it and change it. Then go land a 9.
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Revoh 3y ago
Did you fuck her good? Multiple orgasms?
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bymxco 3y ago
Just curious did she cheat before the break up or after?
Sometimes a girl will break up before they cheat so they dont feel guilty and can claim they have "never" cheated.
Or did she cheat to piss you off to break up.
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pfeilmacher 3y ago
So true. So true.
Or she'll say "we were taking a break --that night I cheated-- so it's not really cheating."
pfeilmacher 3y ago
Because she's a legit hoe. If you're LTRing a 5 or 6, you've got personal issues you need to address.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
@Hazza8
If you were exclusive with a 6 (let's be charitable here) despite the SMV you have, you definitely need to do some soul searching and ask yourself some hard questions man
Durek_The_Bald 3y ago
Who the fuck knows, but it could be because your entire outlook on game, women and yourself is one giant covert contract:
"If I do everything right, then I'll be loved, have my needs met, and live a problem free life".
Basically, turning TRP into just another version of a nice guy script, another version of giving to get. No shit it doesn't make "mathematical sense", you're a human being dealing with other human beings.
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Durek_The_Bald 3y ago
Read Robert Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy" for everything on covert contracts.
Basically, the nice guy script, the mother of all covert contracts, boils down to that one sentence:
"If I do everything right, then I'll be loved, have my needs met, and live a problem free life."
Usually when people think like that, it's based on a blue pill framework. I.e. be nice and respectful to the girls, a perfect gentleman, hard working with a steady job, and you'll get the girl of your dreams. Basically, how things sort of used to work (but not really) before the sexual revolution.
But it's entirely possible to build the same script around a bastardised, quasi kind of red pill foundation. I.e. get jacked, get ripped, build wealth, be alpha, drive a BMW, and THEN you'll get the girls.
Point is, if it isn't internal, it's still a covert contract, where you're expecting a certain outcome provided to you by somebody else, as some kind of reward for all your supposed 'redpilledness' a.k.a. hard work.
Key concept here is "be your own mental point of origin" (Rollo Tomassi, but it's basically a stoic principle). Probably nobody gets this perfectly, as we all seek some sort of external validation, but it's a good ideal to reach towards - that basically everything you do you do for yourself, and the only validation you need is your own. To be as mentally autonomous as you can, rather than judging everything you say and do on whether it's "right" (even from a TRP point of view).
Take something like driving a nice BMW: It can be something you do for yourself, because you just love that car. Or it can be something you do for external validation, for the girls to see you as high value. If it's the latter, then that's basically leading with money, provider credentials, beta credentials. If it's the former, then driving a shitty 94' model Toyota in stead, while definitely not as fun and comfortable, still wouldn't cause a dent in your self confidence.
Thing is though, shit happens to everyone, red pill men too. There's no such thing as "air tight game", at least not for anyone who spends as much as a calory on active thought on TRP. Maybe there are truly naturals out there, but I doubt that too, or that even such a person would have a problem free life.
You're bound to mess up and make mistakes, be off your game from time to time, get involved with the wrong people, all sorts of things. It's more about how you deal with it when it happens, rather than getting things mathematically perfect, and everything running smoothly all the time. That's never been part of the human condition, never will be. Even if everything went perfectly, you'd still invent a problem, you'd simply have to in order to feel anything at all.
Take your girlfriend cheating on you: While it most definitely sucks and hurts, it's also an opportunity. Any failed relationship to a woman is also an opportunity once you choose to see it as that. And once you're done examining it into little pieces, you'll come to see the opportunities in front of you too - preferably sooner rather than later.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
It's the BMW. I have a Mercedes and never get cheated on. Women just know shitty cars.
LudgerKresnik 3y ago
LOL lesson learn never buy a BMW.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Nah keep buying them. My mechanic will go out of business if you don't.
Axlerod9999 3y ago
She was a WHORE. She didnt cheat. Thats who she was.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
First, she's a 5-6 out of 10, like who cares if she left. You are upset because she cheated and left you, and you are much better than her.
Again,why were you with a girl so much below you in the first place? What is very possible is the following.
1) she wasn't interested in relationships really, just wants to be a hoe, going through her fun phase. It's nice to have a regular guy as a "bf" hee hee, at least he thinks he's my bf.
2) she realizes, this is not gonna last, you are gonna dump her because you are much higher than her, so she's just gonna do what she wants.
Getting back to the real issue.
You shouldn't care, you shouldn't be getting locked in with girls this much below you.
so, are you looking for LTR? It seems like it, again, why would you be with a 5-6 girl? What's your goal here?
If it's a LTR, you need to vet better, don't commit until you have had time to vet her, (months), not weeks. If that's actually what you want.
Realize your worth, find girls who are at your level or just below. If you are a solid 8, don't go with girls who are 5-6 unless it's just for fun. They'd need to be a solid 7 or higher for a relationship. If you try to have a relationship with a girl much lower than you, that will cause them mental health issues. Literally they'll freak about you leaving, he's too good for me, what am I doing,etc. The smart ones know it's just temp and for fun, the girls hoping it's real are the ones that end up freaking out.
LudgerKresnik 3y ago
Dude are you my friend? He also owned 2 BMW and her woman cheat on him to another man who is the alpha in other group.
This man is a life of a party(can dance and everybody at the bar/club knows him) but my friend is more good looking(not taller) and have more money than this guy.
Like what you said you have friends and social life so i don’t think social status is the problem here.
Maybe you turned to be a nice guy without noticing it? Woman wired differently even you got everything they can still find a way to break you.
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