First English isn't my first language so sorry for that.
So I asked a classmate out At first she accepted and said yes but 10 minutes later she text me saying if I mean it as a friendly meet or as a date saying that if i mean it as a friendly meet cool but if it was a date she said that she doesn't see herself dating with someone right now I said that I mean it as a date she said sorry for the misunderstanding and that she hopes things don't get weird since she really likes me. I said no problem everything is cool.
And thats all I really need advice on how to proceed since Im going to see her everyday at school and we sit next to each other.
What should I do?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
This is nothing. But move on. Asking a girl out awkwardly and getting turned down is so much lower on the things you should give a shit about scale than other things like bad hookups, false accusations, losing major frame etc.
All that happened was she politely turned you down. Focus on your class, be polite but move on.
Consider not going for girls in your most regular settings if even little rejections might unnerve you
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RememberingAlpha 3y ago
^this is it.
Hanscheezburger 3y ago
I would disagree. Highschool classmates tend to create needless drama. If you're in school, try to expand your environment where you meet new people: sports club, part time jobs, OLD etc. I lost some friends over girls in highschool (going after the same girl mostly, or dating somebody's ex) and in hindsight, it would be much better to separate regular scene vs dating scene.
wswZtyqNGQ 3y ago
Congratulations, you have learned what it's like to get politely turned down. You may not like your body's emotional reaction to it but those feelings are temporarily. You now have knowledge which is permanent, and from that permanence comes power.
You can now decide to enjoy living a life where you do get politely turned down by women every once in a while. If you decide to enjoy this life then you will lead a good life, and you will also empower yourself to become accepted by women and have the success that follows.
Every challenge is a step up the stairs of success. Climb!
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AllBlack087 3y ago
You should say" Yes as a date,hahahaha.No but seriously do you want today to do X",then go out with her.Slowly ,over time ,distance yourself from her without being bad towards her, no matter how much it hurted you, and start asking other girls out.That way you would make your time there less akward,her ego lowered and that would create space for asking out other girls without looking like someone that asks out every girl. But anyway ,what you did is good.Rejection may feel bad but its actually good for you,knowing that she isnt attracted in you ,it prevents you from losing more time and emotiinal investment, that you can spend on pursuing other girls .
pfeilmacher 3y ago
You got rejected. Find another girl to ask out.
Nolimitcurry_ 3y ago
It’s a billion women on the planet. Go game another chick. Simple.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Use her for preselection. Take her out with you to pick up chicks.