LTR wanted me to come over yesterday but I told her I’m with my friends for an event and I wouldn’t be able to come. She was texting me a bunch of clingy messages which I ignored while I was out but gave her a call and answered some of her questions and kept my texts short.
Apparently she was upset that “she felt like she was talking to herself over text” even though I called her but then she proceeded to ignore me that night. I thought she fell asleep which is why she wasn’t replying but “she was making food” and today she’s a bit cold and keeping conversations short.
I’m not sure where things went wrong but it seems like whenever I apply passive dread she mirrors my behaviour and then tries to go cold on me. she responds to dread by being clingy one minute and cold the next minute or by being outright cold and keeping things short.
For some background We have sex multiple times a day. She cooks and cleans and willingly invites me to her place and always wants to spend her time with me.
Her hot and cold behaviour and silent treatment had me thinking it’s some kind of narcissism when she doesn’t get her way or when I’m not compliant with her or a huge ego but I’m not sure.
Skev77 3y ago
I’d say the hot and cold from you adding dread Maybe that when she starts to pull back a bit, you bite. So in all actuality she’s got the leverage. when she pulls back, you pull tf back and stand on it. This is all frame.
You say when you dread she can be clingy one min and cold the next. What you should do is let her get her shit together while you busy doing other things and she comes back to you w better behavior. Don’t bite cuz all it does is cause confusion hence the clingy and cold.
Full disclosure: you can lose her but I doubt it cuz she’s invested so much.
Kabiier_0308 3y ago
Ignore it.... that's right ignore her treatment. This is like the test of who has more power in the relationship. The moment you break and ask her shit like why are you acting this way,say I'm sorry etc you've lost her. Ignore her..... move on with your life. She'll be back to normal in no time.
Also if you're afraid of losing her, you've already lost my frnd. Have an abundance mindset and i guarantee she'll be normal.
mattyanon Admin 3y ago
That's fine, she can feel like that. Not your problem.
She's a spoiled entitled brat who needs to learn that some of you is better than none of you.
here's where you've gone wrong: she doesn't give a shit.
see less of her, make it clear you have other options
Yep