I have read the sidebar numerus times, have been applying trp as much as possible (could be doing much better though), but there's still one problem.
I can't seem to get rid of the perfect girl mindset. Deep down there is still part of me that wants a unicorn girl who is going to love me unconditionally. Logically I know that it is nothing short of a delusion but I just can't seem to fully shake that belief if that makes any sense.
You guys know how I can finally shake it? Maybe I just need to get with more women idk lol
Gilles 3y ago
You don't have to get rid of the idea of a "perfect girl", you just have to know that it is a fantasy with no place in reality.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
https://therationalmale.com/2012/10/29/the-soul-mate-myth/
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
This is literally it. Like you literally just have to keep meeting women and then you slowly and painfully start to be convinced that they don't exist. Feminism, dating apps, the betatization of the common man, the 80/20 rule has killed the perfect woman off the face of the earth.
It's a disillusioning process but keep going on dates with and sleeping with women and eventually you'll just start seeing them as holes. Some will be higher quality than others but you'll lose perfect woman mindset via experience
anima 3y ago
By 80/20 rule you are referring to "80% of the women want the top 20% of men"? My go-to association with 80/20 is the pareto-principle, hence my question.
I second all that but there is some gray space between unicorn and hoe that every man has to find or identify for himself. Female behavior, game and dating strategies i.e. the female imperative, when perceived through a RP-lens, are to an extend over-amplyfied or understated in cases of some women out there. So I think as a successfull man it´s a balancing act in order to not walk over every woman (and thus become cold, BlackPilled etc) and to not being walked over by them (and become bitter, frustrated).
I think weak men, or men with a clouded perception of the female imperative idolize the thought of a unicorn because they desperately want to settle down and stop optimizing themselves. They try to find the perfect woman and take a break from the exhausting reality that manhood dictates + seek unconditional love they try to emulate since childhood (mother´s love) as Rollo stated already.
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kv2_0833 3y ago
Get with more women, however work as hard as you can to become as hot as possible. I had a huge physical glowup, muscles, clothing, haircut etc. Now there are chicks from highschools with boyfriends that I used to pedestalize as good girls, that respond to my thirst traps, go clubbing with me and we do other shit ;) It's kind've destroyed my hope of getting a good girl lol, becoming hot and girls you used to know seeing it and treating you different really makes their hypergamous nature clear as day
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