So I matched with a 18yo girl in some dating app. The girl seems some of those poor neighbourhood girls that their parents dont even care about.
the convo was this Me: What are you doing? Her: Watching youtube Me: Me too, but with beer. Her: I want some Me: You like it? Her: YES Me: GIve me your whatsapp.
Some minutes later on whatsapp Her: Its me Me: I´ll add you Her: How are you? Me: Still fresh, need more beer. Her: Good or bad? Me: Good Her: ok, good. Me: You, bored? Her: Yes Me: where are you from? Her: *she tells my city" Me: Ok if you still bored, I will go to a bar in while, you are invited. Her: I wont go Me: Then have a nice night. Her: Me too.
I posted a few posted a 3 pictures on whatsapp status (just random pictures of a glass of beer, a vodka bottle and a pool table) a few hours later, one hour every between everyone of them and she saw them all in 5 minutes max. So she was kinda stalking me or very bored.
I know I didnt build up enough rapport, but I want this to be low investment overall, how to proceed?
PD: Maybe writting so much about this its over investment, but it will help with future convos, so the advice will be more useful.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
She has to become invested first. Ask her a question about herself and then let her talk about herself. Then you can get her to meet up to tell you more.
Onestepeveryday 3y ago
She seems like the type of girl that doesnt have much going on their life, or dont know how to strike a convo.
redhawkes 2 3y ago
This is boring chit chat, no teasing, not challenging..blunt.
Ask her out after 2-3 days, be specific and polarize (day;time;etc). Fuck this rapport building over text, it's a slippery slope into the orbiter zone. You can still text her, but keep it low key. Keep the convo for irl, otherwise you'll bore her and kill attraction quickly.
Another tip, use statements instead of questions wherever you can. You can even skip the date thing and get her in your place, just use some plausible deniability in context.
Onestepeveryday 3y ago
I really hate small talk over text, like you said it kills attraction and for me is very boring, like I have done it 32123 times, I dont really want to write to much.
I usually use statements, but some girls have pointed me out that I am "very commanding", a girl even told me "You are used to do as you please, right?". Nothing more far from the truth, I usually fake my commanding aura and confidence jaja.
Any tips for pausible denaibility for a shy girl to come to the house of a stranger they barely talk?
financehardo420 3y ago
Who the hell uses WhatsApp lol this girl prolly not even real
Onestepeveryday 3y ago
In my country whatsapp its widely used, its the number 1 texting app. I know you guys in other countrys use other apps, for example facetime its not widely use here.