Been seeing this girl for two months and for all intents and purposes she’s pretty good
Submissive Attentive Spends money on me
Cons Bit chubby and doesn’t go gym regularly enough or eat clean Feminist and thinks everyone she says is perfect and does. E.g body positive movement
Anyway apparently I wasn’t giving her enough comfort ( she gasps every second during tv shows and I told her it was annoying, tried telling her to lose weight, told her to turn her phone off as I’m trying to sleep, not intimate enough during sex)
So she initiated a “ break up”. Haven’t liked a girl in years and don’t get oneitis. However I can get better girls look wise but not everything else wise.
I want to give it another go and we’re talking on Monday. However she says she’s not sure yet and needs Monday and we have been chatting in the interim. She says sh doesn’t want to get anyones hopes up.
But I’m feeling like I’m not sure it will be like it was before.. and I whilst I have some things to work on not everything I’m doing is bad.
Not sure what to do
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
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abitofmemory 3y ago
i am not sure what ur question is. i guess u r just looking for a feedback on ur situation.
everything looks fine to me. if u stick with this girl, it sounds u r feeling comfortable. if u wont stick with her, then u make urself more open to new girls, which is also good.
so, at the end of the day i would just keep grinding my career, my body and my brains and let the situation unfold itself. and ofc when there is an opportunity for u to change anything in ur favor, then seize it.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
Let me try to summarize what you've described.
My girl is a bit fat, for my taste My girl is not doing anything about that and knows I don't like fat girls My girl is a bit of a feminist My girl is on the phone and tv too much, did I mention she is fat? She initiated a break up with me
Why are you trying to get back with her again? I get the she spends money on me, does she really spend more than you do? she's submissive but doesn't sound like it too much. She's not taking your lead on things, especially sex.
Look, she's a plate at best it sounds to me, treat her like a plate.
OPPTRP 3y ago
Tbh she spends a lot more than me atm. She has some good qualities and annoying stuff. Will give it one more go
Skev77 3y ago
OP!!!! careful my friend. You already lost, “I wanna work it out” she’s even changing the date of your guys conversation cuz she “needs more time”. She got you right where she wants you lol now she can cheat on you and/or just look for your replacement in the interim.
You have a case of oneitis whether you want to admit it or not. Another thing just because she’s fat doesn’t mean she ain’t got options, stop projecting your thoughts on to her and thinking your all high and mighty.
OPPTRP 3y ago
That’s my worry cos we’ve already talked. I’m willing to walk anyway if we don’t have a productive talk
I don’t have worries about cheating as she is very morally grounded hard to write it out here
Yeah maybe I’m projecting the fat stuff. I have options but women find it easier
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
( I have options but women find it easier)
Yes and no
Yes, women have it infinitely easier when it comes to obtaining casual sex. anytime they want, if they are completely avg looking or even a bit less.
No, women have a harder time getting a LTR. Why, because hypergammy. They only want a guy, better than them. Unless they need a provider of course, then $$ is much more important