Background info
So I've been on a date with this girl, I took the advice of the RP and got plates as I'm normally prone to Oneitis and being loyal in the talking stage which I now realise is silly. For the 1st date I took the tram to her area and got some ice cream and took a walk in the park, did some flirting but honestly I didn't kiss close only hugged and we didn't have as much kino as i hoped we would but that's my fault.
So I know the advice that you should wait for her to get back to you after the first date however I was in a rush to see whether she is still an option or if I should next her and focus on my other plate who has high interest for me, so I messaged her saying "I had a good time and it was nice getting more familiar with u" she replied saying "yeah ur really chill". I wasn't too pleased with her response but I still asked if she's free this week, she said she has university stuff to sort out this weekend but next Tuesday is good. I suggested the cinema as I have tickets but she said "nah I feel like it is too hot for that in This weather but we can do something else" so I said fair enough and suggested the funfair and she said "yeah sure that sounds fun not going to lie".
Question
So my question is considering how the first date was a bit lacklustre from a RP perspective what should I do on the funfair date to make her think of me in a more sexual way and boost my chances of scoring, I think she's attracted to me since she wants to go on another one but I know if I don't escalate I'm at risk of being friendzoned.
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
Rarely a problem as long as there is kino and flirting. Man/woman dynamic instead of friendly.
Contested advice
When in doubt, assume attraction. Dont try to deconstruct texts too much
For second dates you should be ramping up the potential for sex. Third date is the last chance in my eyes (it's not but a good rule to follow).
That does not equal cinema or the fair. Those two are nice activities, but they are easy going dates for the guy who wants to slide into the BF material folder with tact and grace. It's not all bad, it just sets a slow pace.
I would rather you invited her to a bar close to your place, or feel her out for wine at yours, or similar.
Do the fair thing but early on try to seed something about your place she should see or you should do together. Have fun, kino escalate and go for the pull.
Glaceo 3y ago
Good advice thanks you're right about the bf thing and I'm not trying to be that it's, either I do what u said or bring up the possibility of meeting at a hotel next time. I'm actually 18 about to go university so u don't have my own place yet and even if my parents were out I still have brothers in so I think that's off the table.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
I wouldn't be paying for dates in this day and age. Too much risk of being used and then friend-zoned. Her "university stuff" means another guy. Tuesday date means "we're not fucking". Cancel the spendy funfair and make it a netflix and chill date and see how she responds. Don't waste your time/money on these time/money wasters.
Glaceo 3y ago
She'll be paying for herself no way I'm paying £11 for her. We're both 18 going uni in 3 weeks so I don't think it's another guy I'll give her the benefit of doubt there. Although I get what ur saying with the Netflix and chill thing just a shame I don't have my own place yet but I will in 3 weeks time. Kinda hard to find a place where I can suggest we go to smash.