I am not the jealous type. I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months. I went on a work trip for a month. We had broken up about a month before I left, but we got back together right before I left, so we entered a 1 month phase of long distance in our relationship.
About 2 weeks into my trip she posts a story/meme on snapchat saying "I want to be with someone who wants to be with me"... I hate when she posts shit like this on social media.
Instantly I messaged her "???" And she said "Its nothing" so I said "Ok then it must be for another person" ... She then sent me an eye roll emoji and said she feels i dont want to be with her, im cold hearted blah blah. Normally I would think this was a shit test but we just recently broke up and it was our first week or two back together and i knew there was going to be some residual damage to be patched up, nothing was going to be 100% the same. So i treated the convo like a comfort test.
This is all because of the way we broke up, to leave some details out It was a messy break up for her because of my actions and she got hurt. I understood this was a form of comfort test, repairing the damage from the break up.
Anyways, I patched this up. But its been a few months since then and I was wondering if my response came across as jealousy "It must be for someone else" . Logically I said it because she was acting childish acting like it wasnt for me, so my natural response was... Ok? Then it must be for someone else
Was this just a logical response or could it be seen as me being jealous? This is why i hate texting because so much misinterpretation occurs.
Kabiier_0308 3y ago
It was a shit test from her and you failed. No issues....next time just ignore such BS or joke about it.
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Kabiier_0308 3y ago
Nearly all girls post such stuff on social media for attention lol....best thing is to ignore it or joke about it purposely. Never give them the attention they crave, especially thru such shit!
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
Cant imagine how bad your frame must be when you're still worrying about some text you sent a chick months ago.
Why do you give a shit?
That's a rhetorical question by the way, just in case you felt like actually replying and then go on to ponder that reply for months.
Own yourself. Make yourself your own mental point of origin. First and foremost, what matters is what you think, nobody else. Act rationally according to your own wants and needs, without shame.
When you understand the power this brings you dont need to play games to attract women, and you stop worrying about whether or not you're playing the game correctly.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
she was giving you a comfort test and you failed. the response you gave wasn't necessarily jealousy, it was just not coming from a good frame.
she's a LTR , not a plate. You do mention you recognize it was a comfort test. Got to get that figured out faster and react accordingly.
Now, her posting this shit on social media, well, agree with you, I don't like that shit. tell her you aren't happy with that, in a cool and logical way.
aj14 3y ago
What would have been a good response to this comfort test?
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
( a good response to this test)?
If he wants to be a bit cocky,
Hi babe, good, I only want to be with someone who wants to be with me, too.
amazonri 3y ago
How do you know I failed? I didnt even post the substance of the convo after.
Once she opened up, i gave her comfort.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
simple
you broke up before a trip, you just got together prior to it, 2 weeks in, she texts you she only wants to be with someone who wants her.
I mean cmon, she's begging you for comfort. you recovered, that's good,
kv2_0833 3y ago
Broken up a month before you left, and got together right before you did? Cmon bro what are you doing. Also if she's posting shit on social media it's definitely for a dude man. I post a lot of thirst traps and girls with full ass boyfriends DM me and we link or go clubbing. And what do you think happens at the club? I deal with the girl that I'm into and the friend she brought along is gone (she also has a boyfriend) talking to a hot dude in the club. And the chick I'm talking to puts her hands above her eyes and looks away like she's letting her friend know that we don't see anything lmao.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Who cares if it comes across as jealousy? Be as jealous as you want. I'm territorial as hell when it comes to my wife. The whole anti-jealousy thing is coming from women who want to be sluts in front of their beta husbands.