Im the one who dumped her, so I believe I have to reach out. I really felt I made the right decision when breaking things off with her, she didnt do anything too bad, but I got grass is greener syndrome even though I knew she was very hot, and liked her personality a lot.
Ive been socializing a lot, going out to bars and social events almost 4-5 times a week now. Not "looking" for girls but just working on becoming my best self, one thing I told myself is I would like to become way more social after the breakup. Its been about 2 months since we broke up, I feel like ive improved a lot. I was very social before we dated and sort of fell into a routine with my ex (not the reason we broke up at all), which involved not going out so much just focusing on work and taking her on dates, and friends/hobbies on the side. so im sort of just going back to the old me.
I also have been very disappointed with the girls ive been meeting both hooking up with and just meeting at social events. None of them do it for me.
Meanwhile my ex is constantly posting things trying to get my attention on social media, almost on a daily basis. I know people will say "well, she didnt contact you so its just for attention" but the thing is that I am the dumper, meaning its usually my responsibility to fix things, not her. But theres also the slim chance it is just female ego thirsting for validation, too. Ive talked to a female friend of mine (I know this is not recommended), but she told me that maybe my ex really wants me back but since i dumped her she wont reach out, because girls have pride, and all she can do is do "hints" or whatever, just gave me a female perspective.
Its been 2 months, Ive improved myself tremendously. I want my ex back. But im not sure if I could get her back, just because some people have strict rules on not getting back with an ex, im not sure if thats the type of person she is. I have been very underwhelmed with the girls ive been meeting and hooking up with, and i dont want to waste 6 months of time finding another girl on her level. Especially when she didnt do anything wrong i got "grass is greener" syndrome.
My biggest fear is that I ask for her back and she doesnt want me anymore, even though I admit my wrongs and return as a better version of myself.
Even though Ive been focused on improving myself, I cannot help but think a few times a day "what if she doesnt want me back anymore" and that question i ruminate on a daily basis. But I think that maybe she feels the same about me.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Not everything in TRP is about being an ultra Chad. If she had dumped you I'd say move on, but you can reach out. There are a few outcomes to keep in mind though, even if she took you back:
1) relationship may never be the same
2) she may have been fucking other dudes by now and/or have a roster going
3) she may always hold it against yiu going forward
Also, if she rejects you, at least you'll have your answer and stop wondering
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Just ask @financehardo420 about getting your ex back. That iron rule of Tomassi is gonna hit you like a lead pipe.
financehardo420 1y ago
juice ain’t worth the squeeze brother. I just almost got back the love of my life and she got pissed bc she found out I was talking to another girl.
result? she went and fucked some chad just to spite me. Now I’m not gonna say yours n my situations are the same (but best believe me mine was loyal to me and not a whore) but end of the day there’s a reason you dumped her.
never ever look back only go forward. spin more plates; keep the ones that are enthusiastic asf about you around, let them prove themselves to you over time and you’ll find a better bitch brother.
also if a bitch has feels for you don’t ever get caught w other bitches. bc if you patch that up it’s all gonna be fucked up
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Show me photos before and after she hits the wall. Been there, done that. It ain't pretty.
financehardo420 1y ago
Which one king ahaha but ya she doesn’t work out; wall will be baaaaaad. And then I’ll just marry some hot 22 year old when I’m 35, jacked asf, n filthy rich
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Apparently you don't even have to marry them nowadays. You just fuck them from ages 18-28 and then get new ones. Some cuck raises your kids thinking it's his.
financehardo420 1y ago
I think when I move to nyc I’m gonna have a burner phone just for women lmaooo
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Burner phone, fake name, impregnate all the "sex and the city" wannabe hoes. They have several forms of birth control so I have no sympathy for them. Go get your alpha seed ladies. Don't come crying when all the beta needs guys learn red pill and you get to be a single mommy for life.
financehardo420 1y ago
New chick I’ve been seeing finally resolved my nut problems lol. and now when I shoot loads it’s literally like so much fucking cum. alpha seed as fuck I’m literally shooting buckets; I should drop out and become a male pornstar lol
whytehorse2021 1y ago
I wish I was that guy on Asianstreetmeat.com
financehardo420 1y ago
You’re a sick fuck lmao
whytehorse2021 1y ago
How is that even sick?
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