Me and this girl have known each other for a few years, we talked on and off, always with feelings involved. Now, we've been talking since April, and made a strong bond. She is overall very submissive to me, cancels other plans to see me, compliments me a lot, initiates 90% of the physical touch, always dresses nice for me, does her hair, hygiene etc. She also told me she loves me multiple times.
She is a virgin and was scared to get intimate at first, but she started exploring her sexuality with me thanks to the advice I got here about 3 weeks ago. So far, I got 2 blowjobs, she let me cum on her face both of the times.
I usually see her once a week, sometimes twice. I started vetting her for a LTR, but she just demoted herself hard.
❌This is our text convo few days ago (have to translate, can't upload screenshots):
Her: you got time?
Me: if you want me to come over, i've been drinking, can't drive
H: i just wanted to talk, but if you're with anyone..
M: we can talk
H: are you with anyone or no? now or ever? i believe that you'll tell me the truth
M: no
H: blah blah blah she switched the conversation asking me how my day was
H: next time i will get down on my knees (last time I was at hers it she didn't want to, she was on her period and had a something like a cold sore)
M: good girl
H: you won't let me swallow, why?
M: i love cumming on your face, but ill let swallow if you ask nicely
H: i was just curious, why on the face?
M: we talked more about it and I told her how i had the best orgasm I've ever had when she sucked me the last time, which is true
❌Yesterdays convo:
H: are you free on thursday?
M: perhaps i will be
logistics
M: why don't you send me nudes sometimes? (I asked because she turned the convo sexual last time, wanted to explore more with her. According to her she's never done it. She comes from a milionaire family and is a virgin. I don't believe her but at the same time can't say she's lying.)
H: why would i do that?
M: because i want you to
H: don't you have other hoes for that? (never talked about other girls, she noticed preselection from parties, people talking about me, girls commenting on my IG pics etc.)
M: do i?
H: you don't?
M: i want to have you for that
H: go fuck yourself, i'll never be this for you left her on read
❌Today's convo:
H: we'll talk about it when we see each other
M: we wont see each other if you keep up this behavior
H: what's up with my behavior?
M: read your last 2 messages, either stop or don't, but I won't be here for that
H: i'll never behave like you want me to, i'm not like that, i admit what i said was wrong, but if I knew how you're gonna face this i would've stopped trying long ago (she has been pushing for a LTR for quite a bit)
left her on read again
I may have failed a shit test or two for her to do this, but I realize this is massive disrespect and acting up. My answer to what I have to do other than demote her is make her apologize, promise to never act like this again or I'll leave (is it an ultimatum or setting boundaries?), fuck other bitches until she comes crawling back and when she does make her suck my dick like crazy and treat her more like a plate, because I admit I have been treating her like a girlfriend (and vetting her for a LTR, as I said).
Anything else to do here or is my plan fine? Going to the boxing gym to train my ass off, have a nice day everyone!
Diabs 1y ago
Man the main problem was going wayy too deep over text. The answer to allot of those questions was "we can talk about this later" because texting is just bullshit it can totally fuck you.
I even ask girls if they can "send me a sexy picture later" when we are in person and she might send me some later or not. Usually they say no but send one anyway LOL
I don't text much at all even to my gf because I killed so much attraction and messed up allot of times back when I was younger over text so it never really feels right to me.
chadchaddington 1y ago
Yeah, you're right. I should stop texting so much.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
This is when the mask slips.
Be grateful you are not married to her when it does.
PS when girls do this you ignore them for 2-3 days, don't let them worm back in so fast. But that line is an instant dealbreaker for a LTR right there.
chadchaddington 1y ago
You're speaking facts, but I usually choose to open the message, leave them on read and go on with my life. If I waited for a few days I tend to start playing games with myself and almost not focus on anything else. But I'll try doing it in the future.
What do you say about my plan (end of post) and what to do next?
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
accept her as she is and get on with your life
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
This is just an aside, but a girl not wanting to sext you isn't disrespect. How she responded about it was, but you can't expect all girls to be willing to risk transmitting naked content
Also, I really don't understand why you're vetting a girl for an LTR after two blowjobs. You're not even fucking her. Your level investment and commitment to her is horrifically disproportionate to the history you and her have sexually
chadchaddington 1y ago
Just to clarify, I did not expect her to be willing to do it. This is why asked her if she would be down and didn't tell her "send me nudes bitch". This I do not see as disrespect, only her unreasonable reaction/answer, as I never cussed at her or anything similar.
To the latter part of your comment - I agree and am aware of it, but I chose it. Been in the RP for 2 and a half years, been with a lot girls since, all with lack of personality, character. I needed to start feeling something after all this time.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Sounds like a bunch of failed shit tests.
Are you seeing other women? No - fail
Can I waste your time? yes - fail
Don't you have other hoes? No - fail
Wait you don't have other hoes? No, I am simping for you - fail
Just go fuck other bitches and friend zone her until she wants to fuck.
abitofmemory 1y ago
wdym by the fifth? i dont c him responding with "why?"
whytehorse2021 1y ago
I dunno, it's really hard to read