Brief context:
- Been doing cold approach for a month with lots of numbers, a few dates, but no lay yet
- Ultimately want a family and kids, but want to sleep around for the next 5 years
- Met an 8/10 through cold approach, she's very aligned with what I want for a mother but is 35, I'm 30
- First date cocktail bar - made out, established an intesne connection
- Second date my house dinner - Lots of heavy grinding but no sex ("sex is sacred to me, blah blah")
- Third date her house dinner - Ate her out twice giving her intense orgasm but she wouldn't reciprocate. After this she said "time for you to go" and I got kinda mad at her. Had a long convo where I revealed way too much of my feelings, about what I'm doing with cold approach, she said she can't have sex with me if that's what I want to do. I should've bailed the instant she turned down sex.
I think elements of me have been too beta, fantasising about her becoming an LTR and for that reason she didn't see me as AF and wouldn't fuck me.
Another part is that I'm sleeping around and she doesn't want to fuck me because of that.
Can I deceive her and get into a relationship with her just to fuck her? Is it even possible at this point?
I know TRP says sexual strategy is amoral. Part of me wants to just lie to her and fuck her, then leave her. I know the sex would be unreal and probably best I've had.
Yeah, may be oneitis type of shit, but she's probably the hottest girl I've met so far.
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mattyanon Admin 3y ago
Don't make them cum before getting your dick inside their mouth or pussy - they get satisfied and feel no desire to reciprocate.
Worst comes to the worst - shrug and go. Don't fucking get emotional on her.
Yep
Nah, this is fine. The problem is you came across as beta, but now she thinks you're an unfaithful beta. Not hot enough to be a player, just a bad beta.
Don't tell them about sleeping around ambitions.... seduce or don't seduce, don't tell her you want to fuck her and a load of other girls. You're better off telling her that you already fuck 8 other women but you're not sure about her.
She doesn't want a rl with you either. This line of thinking is terrible for your personal development.
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
Good job on the cold approaching. Take these comments to heart or expect more frustrating fails.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
She let you put the dirtiest part of a human(mouth) in her vagina but wouldn't take your dick? Get the fuck outta here man. Lie to her. Don't be stupid. It's called a game for a reason. Everyone is playing it except you.
Ti123 3y ago
If anything my mouth is cleaner than pussy and I don’t put my mouth no where close to it. You be fucking hookers too better be careful.