So we broke up and I wanted her back the same week, she said she wasnt ready for a relationship. I came to the conclusion its because i dumped her twice and ruined her trust. Its been about 31 days No Contact. Heres what ive noticed from her
Day 2-7: Sad heartbroken emotional memes about being emotionally empty
Day 10: She removed her Whatsapp profile photo. She is very immature, and she does this when she is hurt/sad/heartbroken. She did this when her grandmother passed away for example. And she did it when we stopped talking during the dating phase. So she uses it for big emotional moments. Basically she is admitting she is hurting which is usually a good sign after break ups compared to indifference. Girls do this when they want you to reach out. Apparently this is a common trend amongst younger girls 18-25. In other words, she did this to make me reach out, but I didnt.
Day 24: Two weeks later she put up a profile photo, wearing a dress I bought her for her birthday a few months ago.
Day 26: She changed her photo again. She changes her photos a lot when she used to want my attention or me to reach out. She did this more often before we were official and when i was single and not giving her lots of attention. Back when we were in the talking phase and didnt talk for a while, if she changed her profile photo i would usually set up a date after. Just a weird pattern i noticed.
Day 29-31: Shes been posting a lot using emojis that we used in our conversations. Ive known her for 2 years and she never used these emojis. But now shes using them on Twitter, Instagram in the captions, the emojis i used to use with her.
Were currently at Day 31 and when i saw the emojis the past few days i felt that these were obvious signs compared to the other ones. Ive known her for 2 years she never used these emojies before, until 1 month of breaking up? As if shes been reading our old convos or something, because theyre all in there.
For those wondering why she doesnt reach out to me otherwise its all breadcrumbs, its because I technically broke things off with her. So the ball is in my court, I believe. But you can argue maybe its in hers because she didnt want to continue the relationship after I reached out again, but maybe it was too soon.
Should I reach out to rekindle things soon if im getting all these hints from her? I have been dating other women but I have days where i regret breaking up with her to begin with. I still plan on giving it a few more months, because im working a lot and working on myself in the meantime..
P.S. I dumped her twice, very fucked up. But i was not abusive or it wasnt a bad relationship at all. They were two isolated ugly moments in the relationship. So maybe the space apart is making her realize the good in the relationship and that although i shouldnt have broken up the second time she realized she did contribute to the second break up? I know its common for this to happen.
pofkaf 1y ago
If you're going "no contact" then why are you stalking her social media? No contact means no contact. None. She's dropped out your rotation.
You're acting like a woman, trying to decipher what her social media posts mean. Get over it and move on.
bymxco 1y ago
Its important to think like a woman to know whats going on. If we are in no contact and I am the dumper and responsible for reaching out, she has no choice but to drop hints. Dumpees hardly ever reach out, they can only show that they are open and receptive, and thats why they do the hints.
Contrary to what TRP tells you its ok to want a good girl back, especially if you fucked up, not her. I decided to leave her alone becasue i thought i hurt her too much beyond repair, but it seems she is dropping hints and wants to hear from me, which is a good direction to be headed in. If i hurt her too much she would be indifferent and move on.
pofkaf 1y ago
Do what you want. But I'm warning you, you are wasting alot of time and energy.
Live and learn. Come back in a few months with a field report and the realization of how beta you sound right now.
Ti123 1y ago
U r not special.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
She turned down your offer to get back together, the ball is in her court, you hold no power. Briffault's Law
financehardo420 1y ago
lucky bastard
bymxco 1y ago
You think these are solid signs?
financehardo420 1y ago
Def; enjoy my dude
imtranscending 1y ago
Why not just bring her back as a plate? The make up sex will be fucking fantastic and by plating her, you give her the opportunity to improve behavior (unlikely it seems). But at least you’re in control and can dangle the hopes of being promoted to main plate or whatever. But be clear you don’t have much time for any drama. If she’s willing to cooperate then she can be fulfilled and happy being back in your life, because she seems a little obsessed with you.
bymxco 1y ago
Thats quite a reach considering she didnt want my exclusivity 30 days ago. Granted, asking the same week must be the absolute worst time to ask to get back together, typically they need space after being dumped. But 30 days NC is enough to dread her into thinking shes lost me for good, and will maybe settle for my conditions just to be back in my life.
So far, if the signs are right, then Im in control so far. As long as I dont break NC it should only grow from here. But I will never know the truth until I reach out to fix things.
We also dont know if these signs are legit either, you can only guess and assume these are hints and positive signs.
But the plan is to reach out next month and make her a plate and then promote her back up eventually. I assumed she wouldnt want anything to do with me last month, so its nice to hear encouragement from an outside perspective.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Sounds like ONEITIS bro. For all you know she's just doing it to see if she can get validation from you. Maybe even turn you into her orbiter. Find a better woman and move on.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Also, she might just be doing this in general? OP, you're applying what could just be unrelated behaviors to yourself as if it's directed at you. You don't know that
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
what the fuck? you ended things....... block her and move on