Do ex ltr's always come back? I read many post on subreddit and on asktrp , most people say they come back . Like this is a general situation. Do they really come back even if you acted beta in the end , but realized you are being a bitch , ghosted and started no contact? What is your experience on this? I want her to come back to plate her because she was hot and sex was great. I had oneitis after break up . I realized it and started working on my SMV , lifting and gaming other girls even had some success.
TL:Dr : do ex-es come back?
HardTruth 1y ago
You shouldn’t want them to. They’re an ex for a reason.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
No. This is selection bias. The stories people often feel the most urgency to talk about on an online forum regarding exes are when the ex is still communicating with them or has resumed communication with them
Most relationships that end, the partner that ended it typically was invested in moving on, hence why they ended the relationship and don't try to get back
Unfortunately you are getting a skewed sample of posts regarding exes
EmpireCrimson 1y ago
If you're displaying alpha traits (whether you know it or not), in my experience, they usually come back around in one form or another. For some it's the hare-brained excitement of being with someone who isn't a wuss or otherwise not in control of their frame or their life. We commonly refer to that as being an alpha-widow. With women who have advanced beyond plates, they've all come back around to try and reconcile or get back together with me, including my ex-wife.
I've slept with all of them again after the relationship, but never treated them as anything more than option. One woman I dated, but never entered into made a plate or LTR because she put up an abnormal amount of what I now know to be LMR/ASD -- so I stayed distant -- wanted to sleep with me after she found out I was moving in with my girlfriend. Sure, I slept with her, and moved in with my girlfriend.
Moral of the story: If you were behaving like an alpha, they probably will come back around at some point. If you weren't in control of your SMV and frame, they probably won't. You are now, so lose the one-itis and exercise your options. She's just another woman.
SeasonedRP 1y ago
Typically not if they break up with you.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
No
of course not.
You have oneitis. Fuck more women,
crimsonchin03 1y ago
Yes they do if you are confident in your relationship and what you brought to the table. A lot of TRP people have a very negative view on ex’s so they will tell you to move on and fuck other girls.
The reason you don’t hear it too much online is because those people who got their ex back don’t feel the need to post about it online anymore.
If you didn’t go extremely beta and beg her, and handled the break up maturely and did No Contact then she will usually come back.
She has to have valued your relationship though, and no one knows how valuable you were, only you do. Like if you were some basic ass dude who really fucked up a lot with shit tests or were just a bad boyfriend then she probably won’t. She can easily replace you with another basic dude who at least treats her average, you see my point?
But if you are high value and had some flaws she will most likely come back, there’s context
If she cheated or dumped you, then I wouldn’t take them back personally. If you do it 100% has to be them reaching out and on your terms and you can’t jump into LTR again you need to make them earn it back by being a good fwb
Bulba 1y ago
In my own experience they always come back if the sex was good. I have an ex that always told me that I fucked her much better than any man she has ever been with. She would tell me that without prompting, she didn’t make this up to make me feel better.
Yesterday I got a DM from her saying between the lines that she’s down to fuck when I’m in her city.
crimsonchin03 1y ago
Was this a plate or a LTR? Sometimes its common to refer to an ex-plate as an ex.
Ive broken up with plates and sex was still on the table, but sometimes when you break up with an LTR they dont necessarily demote themselves to a plate to have sex with you, unless they fucked up an you walked away.
In other words, you can fuck an LTR really good, but depending on the break up they wont come back for sex, if you hurt them really badly emotionally. Its going backwards in their eyes. But plates, they understand if you hurt them you technically had the right to as they werent an LTR and the forgiveness factor is there and they cant really blame you since there was never an official thing going on.
Bulba 1y ago
She was a LTR for a year and a half.
crimsonchin03 1y ago
Do they always come back? Always? No.
If you want them to come back the best thing to do is No Contact not just 30 days but at least 2-3 months. Thats enough time for them to regret dumping you and enough time for them to realize the possibility of losing you for good (some ex's dont care, but some do).
Around 1-2 weeks of No Contact, your ex will be happy she left you, she has freedom, feels high off rejecting you, feels relieved that she got it over with. Between day 14-45 she will slowly begin missing you, wondering why you dont contact her, wondering what youre up to, while also dealing with her own new dating life, perhaps she will compare new prospects to you in this phase.
At day 45-60 Most ex's begin to reach out here. Its because at this point they believe they have actually lost you for good. They may realized they took you for granted, or that your flaws werent that big of a deal. They will also assume you are dating someone else at this point, even if youre not. Let their hamster work against them. They may actually believe you moved on, and some do by this point. People want what they cant have. People dont know what they had until its gone.
Day 60-90 is when most reach out. Same thing as above. They think they lost you. They miss you so much it hurts they want you back. They realized they loved you. Their rebound relationship failed. They couldnt find better. ETC.
According to statistics No Contact works about 50-60% of the time. So theres a 1 in 2 chance you get her back if you do NC but make sure you work on yourself in the meanwhile and date other girls just to cope better and maybe you get lucky and find better. Expect the worst, hope for the best.
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crimsonchin03 1y ago
At what point do you look at yourself and ask why none of your ex's come back?
We all know someone who got back with their ex. A lot of people do. According to research 50-60% of exes eventually ocme back. Why are you not retaining? What are you doing wrong?