I am not here to get validation. I can't deal with overwhelming feeling of guilt, sadness, grief over an ex girlfriend aka oneitis. İ am having guilt of the moments I acted beta and the fact that it was my fault that ended the relationship. Memories of Good times, sex and etc. I am going to gym, socialising , started new hobbies, trying cold approaches but no success yet. I am meeting a new girl almost everyday but maybe my game sucks. I am reading books. I am doing everything to be busy but...
She is always in my mind. It has been four months and she already moved on to a new relationship. I just can't let it go. I am also get sad about the fact that I part of me still hoping for her to come back. I feel sometimes very motivated but other times kind of weak.
How do you accept that your ex now is fucking someone else? The girl that treated you like king now is bending over for someone else? Developing more options? How does it work when you forget gaming girls and started learning again? This is really hard for someone who is unsuccessful with women.
The question I am asking is how do you really accept and let go?Is this normal for longing that girl eventhough you know it was a slut. Is it a conscious decision that you make? Is it something you do everyday? How do fuck you accept and move on? Is it repeating over and over again "she is not yours its your turn". Is it really just time that helps it? İs it monk mode?
I am listening other advices you gave before , I mean I am really doing them but I could not accept the fact that its over. This seems its only problem I have now.
How do you kill your emotions? I really want to be emotionless, cold, have an IDGAF on everything. I am using my anger and sadness in gym and approaching.
I have one goal and it is to be a man that women afraid to lose. A man that no one can make him sad. A man that is indifferen.t

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qstone 3y ago
Thank you for this comment. İt is what it is. İ will print this and put it on my wall. It is life. İt is what it is.
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
I vaguely know a guy at the country places I go to that is arguably a noticable Chad without a doubt and I still see him look bummed out the nights he doesn't get the lay or able to close.
I also get the vibe that he possibly does not hang on to girls all that well. He seems to always have time to be at these places without fail, so realistically, he must not always have a girl to be with on these nights already or he'd be skipping a few nights out.
So yeah, the what would Chad do is not always applicable when it comes to rejection or success
qstone 3y ago
so what you say about accepting and taking an L V-rx?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
You definitely need to take the L on this one. 4 months after a girl breaks it off with us definitely done. Might be different if you dumped her onto the streets and now she can't find anyone better, but she left you.
It's definitely time man. It's fucking hard, I'm not trying to minimize your experience at all. It's definitely fucking hard, but it's done. The pages of that chapter burned behind you a long time ago
qstone 3y ago
Yes, it is hard to accept but it is what it is. Her new bf threatened me to today on text that I should leave them alone eventhough I was just trying to move on. It was funny how the table turns so quickly. A woman that you know suddenly becomes a stranger or even an enemy.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
You didn't mention in your post that you reached out again to her. That is a horrible idea if she is taken and you're doing that.
Briffault's law is basic side bar. A woman does not owe you anything. If the shoes were flipped, and she was reaching out for closure and you had a new gf, you would be societally expected to give it to her and other people would fault you for being cold.
I think you should start from the ground up and re-read the entire sidebar and Rational Male/ illimitable men's red pill truths (or whatever he called them)
It sounds like you have let yourself devolved into a seriously blue-pilled slump over this girl. I'm not sensing any red pill in how you're handling it
qstone 3y ago
To be honest, yes, I fucked up. Hard case of oneitis. I need to rebuild my frame from zero. Maybe I need to build "myself" from zero. I need to learn the Game.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
I'm not trying to throw salt in your wounds, but yes. Take some self -care today. Get some good sleep and start fresh tomorrow.
Delete her number, unfriend/block her and her BF on all social medias. unfriend her friends too. Completely drop her out of your life
Throw away any belongings you still have of hers. Throw away the memories etc. Burn her out of your life completely
qstone 3y ago
İ will do everything you say. İ will do it. İt is time to let go of the past for a better well lived future. I will not be the same Man ever again. İ will value Self-respect beyond anything
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
Yeah, you have to be your own #1 priority
qstone 3y ago
Any book for building Frame from zero?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
Frame? No I'm not sure. Read rational male if you haven't already. Has some essays on frame but also other important essays on female nature in it as well
qstone 3y ago
Thank you V-rx. You and matty like a father for me.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
You're welcome
You have no idea how much I appreciate that comment, thank you
qstone 3y ago
Can I pm you?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
Sure, I'm going to be somewhat busy tonight but I'll respond where I can
Bulba 3y ago
Just make sure to quit her social circle as well. If you leave a relationship and keep seeing the same people and doing the same things then you didn’t really get over it.
That’s why the simplest way to get over a breakup is to travel or move to a new city.