I’ve realised recently the reason why I struggle to hook up with girls is because I’m not very comfortable being physical, and it’s something I’ve always struggled with even as a child. I never liked getting rough with my friends when I was a child and even in sports I would avoid physical encounters (even dumb shit like hugging a teammate after he scored), I watch my friends push and shove the opposition but for me I just feel incredibly awkward doing so.
This is something I’ve noticed has creeped through in all parts of life, I’m not sure if it’s just physically or also psychology (worried about looking weird etc.). The thing is I’m not a weird guy, overall I’m very decent socially, I just struggle with physical contact, how can I work on this? I know forcing myself to be physical with girls is one and I imagine taking up a form of fighting eg kick boxing would also help. Is there anything else I should try?
sad_sleeper 3y ago
Read Book of pook. There is a topic covering this. https://bookofpook.com/embrace-your-sexuality/ and this https://bookofpook.com/15-lessons-for-young-men-only-the-sexual-ones-get-the-girls-lesson-8/
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
Yeah start taking brazilian jiu jitsu classes, and also progressively be more touchy socially. First with people you are very comfortable with like family or close friends, and go from there. Naturally, you start with friendly asexual touching e.g. a hug, a pat on the back, a quick touch on the shoulder, a leading hand on a woman's back, etc. Dont let your touches linger, until you start with overt sexual touching. I assume you've gotten laid before so you know when it's "on".
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