So most of my friends/acquaintances are lazy and do not wanna go to night outs, they prefer staying in, playing video games, jerking off or whatever the fuck and I am sick of it. I have one old acquaintance, we've known each other since high school, we're both 23 and we're both regarded as very good looking, muscled up, shit together etc, and we usually both go on night outs and we slay in terms of attention but he's not always around and I'd like to go out every weekend because I grind like fucking hell during the week and I deserve that shit, for myself, by myself.
Some of you might say that I should just make new friends, but I've tried, most of my peers from my generation are fucking weasels that cringe at having fun and getting the fuck out there.
I've been thinking of going out solo on fridays and saturdays, at bars/clubs, to enjoy myself and get some chicks cause I've had enough waiting on other fools to stop wasting their life around. I also don't live in US/NA if that matters.
What would you suggest that I should do to make it a good/fun experience?
mattyanon Admin 3y ago
Absolutely yes.
Honestly it's hard but it can be done. I'd suggest you keep trying it until you figure out what makes it fun for YOU.
wswZtyqNGQ 3y ago
If you're all nerves then adopt a story. "I'm here on business." "I'm new in town." "I'm recently single and looking to meet new people." Go in ready to drop your story (but don't be an idiot about it) and play with women that way. If you get called out on it then have a backup story.
Exposure therapy is usually the best and fastest way to overcome nerves so you probably won't have to keep the story up for long.
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whytehorse2021 3y ago
I think going solo is better. I'm just there to take a chick home anyway so no point in having friends around.
Objetpetita 3y ago
I don't have any advice to offer, just wanted to say I relate to this so goddamn hard. I don't have a problem getting to know people, everyone I meet seems to like me yet when it comes to going out there they're never up for it or the logistics just don't work out. I do not have the slightest idea how people manage to create a stable outgoing friend group, it seems unreasonably difficult.
nodaysoff 3y ago
Maybe people don't like to hangout with people that are above them because it might make them feel bad about themselves and their situation. Idk, could be just human nature perhaps.
tenfour 3y ago
my most reliable mate for nights/days out was there, once he craked and said he cannot deal with feedbacks because it is already much for him to go out with me, his early game is better yet felt insecure about hanging out with me, which I sensed and attempt to give him more space didn't work.
I have strong suspicion this is also inter-masculine competition, I can see sometimes regulars sometimes even ppl that call themselves gamers hanging alone without success where extra body would improve possibilities [Brad P claims night game is built on building network in the venue if you don't have one - hence going out solo is harder unless you can casually open people left and right]