Hi redpillers.

I had a break-up two months ago. I broke her trust and she ended things. She saw some texts on my phone with a girl. I got a severe oneitis. I did not handled break up like a redpilled man. Full scarcity mindset, I dont have much success with women and she was hottest of them. I should have gone no contact. If I done this , I feel like she would have come back . I tried to get back her but light switch effect was there. No feelings , no desire.

I hit the gym. Already lost 0.7 percent body fat. I socialize . I am reading side bar and handbook at the same time. I started to do cold approaches. Not a success yet. So I am trying my best to overcome this.

2 days ago I learned that she has a new boyfriend. Learning this hit me hard. A huge blow to the ego. I was her first bf. Sex was great. We even had sex the day before break up. To be honest, I could not let go of the hope that she would come back. I mentally accept that it is over but feelings are still there. Now my mind is full of negative thoughts, thoughts like imagining her banged by her new bf or her sucking him etc. I try to medidate and focus on the breath but these thoughts just killing me. I understand that she is another person, I cant control her. But my thoughts so fixated on her. I am using anger and sadness as a motivational source and it is effecting goodly on my life.

Is these thoughts normal? Have you experienced? How can I really move on? and just let go?