Heads up: Wall of text rant.
I'm in my early 20s. I'm certainly not in the worst situation. I've read the sidebar. It certainly put a lot of ideas and new perspective into me that I never would've realised in my lifetime. But now as I put it into practice, I still have no fucking clue where to start.
No, actually. It's not that. It feels as if I don't want to start - to start going out and just socialise to, well... anyone, not just girls. I forced myself out to a pub and had a drink on my own, and even spoke to the bartender, which wasn't bad in itself, but it made me realise that I'm going to have to build my social circle completely from scratch, as well as learning how to have fun with random people.
I knew that all my excuses were bullshit before I ran out of them. There is truly no reason I have to not go out and TALK. I've heard time and time again that it'll simply get easier if I just keep going at it, but holy crap. Punching a brick wall sounds more appealing. I feel this is all simply because I don't have anyone to hold me accountable, so I want you to hold me accountable, or just give me shit. Do I just hire some guy to nag me to talk to women?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
No, hold yourself accountable and do it. I get the vibe that even if you had someone to tag along with you to make you do it, you still wouldn't.
Just do it
Delaney 3y ago
Easier said than done.
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
Pick some of the more actionable advice, just one article at a time, and work on applying that to your life. You can start pretty much anywhere, it doesnt have to be "boring".
Lol. Look, if you have healthy T levels and dont jack off to porn every other day or more, you should have a strong biological urge to fuck women. Get it into your head that you're not trying to just talk with the women you meet; you're trying to have sex with them.
Also. Looking and feeling great is important in order to both enjoy yourself and maximize your results. Do you have or are you on track to get a good job? Do you lift regularly? Do you have your nutrition in order so you actually build muscle and can get to 10% BF? Stylish and grooming well? Make this stuff happen and reap the benefits.
Delaney 3y ago
Ok I've had some time to collect my thoughts. In reality I've made more progress than my post makes out to be. I have good health and dress nice. I have a clear goal in mind with regards to work. My urge to fuck has seen better days. I feel good most of the time, and can at least maintain eye contact with girls that make me hard, and sensing when one seems interested in me, so I guess that's where I'm up to. It's easy for me to downplay the progress I have made when I hit roadblocks. I think I just wanted to talk to someone about this kind of stuff.
mattyanon Admin 3y ago
Choose your own path in life.
Impressive-Cricket-8 3y ago
Have you considered you're introverted? Being introverted doesn't mean being shy, it just means you find other things more appealing than socialising. If that's the issue, find something interesting to do while socialising - enroll on a spanish class, take cooking lessons, find a group that goes hiking every weekend, start learning a martial art, or whatever other hobby you may have.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Bars are where you go to be alone. Try groups that do things you're interested in. I do rocketeering, D&D, classic car shows, fishing, etc.