The issue I see here is that you were already self conscious. You probably were self conscious leading into this and she detected it. Unless she has some warped idea of what a man’s size is like, this is very likely the main reasoning.

You have to not care. Like I’m shorter than average (5’7”), I have little girly hands that look kind of ridiculous in comparison to my big arms, and I’m not exactly Ron Jeremy down there. It is what it is. You can choose to feel bad about things that you can’t control, or you can just accept them and move on.

Sure, things would be easier if we were NBA players packing massive heat, but it’s not worth making yourself feel bad about things out of your control.

Wow dude this will send you on a massive red pill spiral for sure, completely understand that hurts… ngl I think unless you’re below like 5 inches you probably shouldn’t worry. It’s unlikely that you are below this… if you are maybe look into getting a bath mate pump.

Furthermore, you got fucking unlucky dude… like I reckon very few girls would be this savage and obviously it’ll hurt. Recommend you get more experience with other girls. You don’t need to use your dick to make girls cum…

My personal way of fucking girls now (due trying to avoid pregnancy and STDs - I hate condoms so not an option for me lol) is to use a doxy wand (google it) girls absolutely love this thing and many have never used one before. They’ll cum easy af and you don’t need to put in any effort lol and then you just tell ‘em to suck you off.

How big is it? Consider doing PE, will take a lot of effort but, for me, it was worth it. Definitely changed my life. You can gain an inch in ~1-2 years

Well consider this. If your relationship was better, your size wouldnt mean much. You messed up simply by allowing your "special" girl to wait 8+ months before even seeing your dick.

That's laughable, but even worse is that now YOU feel like shit because SHE and her porn-addled brain cared more about dick size than she did about you.

Now im hoping you understand why you dont commit to any girl you havent had sex with, and who hasnt proved to you, over time, that SHE can fulfill YOUR needs.

Read the sidebar

The guys here are right, it's not your dick size, it's the fact you're huge mangina. Who tf waits 8 months to smash. Taking things slowly is women talk for dry pussy.

The good thing is you're 23, read the sidebar on the main sub, top 500 posts, apply. You can bet your left nut she's not a virgin. This is you problem. Fuck the bluepill disney illusions, no unicorns, no prize waiting for you at the end.

Polarize asap, don't get in relationship before you fucked. Fuck first, everything else, later.

Where do I go from here?

Ghost, hard next. She's not your gf. Talk to other chicks and fuck them. Remove the shit from your head that chicks only fuck in relationship. Become the casual guy.

Hey man,

You let that bitch have power over you. That was your mistake. Why were naked with your dick in her face. If you are on the smaller side take your pants off once you are hard. So kiss and play with her a little longer. Don’t let her give you handjobs fuck her from the back.

Most bitches don’t give a fuck about the size but it’s more about dominance. If you can’t dominate her mentally with a dick then play with different tools in your arsenal like strength. Don’t be rapey but learn dominance. All bitches test you about your every insecurity. It’s to check the bitch in you. Look at it as a simple test that will take a long time to overcome don’t let it get you down. Life is full of tests so this won’t be the last one. There are way bigger tests you’ll face this is just your first taste at life

when you give a chick the tingles, and shes crazy for u, she wont give a flying fuck about ur dick size. re-calibrate and on to the next chick

relationship with a good girl (21F) for almost 8 months and we were taking it slow (both virgins).

If you're not fucking her then you are not in a relationship with her.

She gave me a HJ but said let's not go the whole way. Yesterday she told me that she loves me but she had imagined losing her virginity differently and wasn't ready for me to be her first.

Ouch. Well, that fucking sucks.

she wanted to wait before we got physical

Please please please learn this lesson...... "let's wait" means "not attracted". If she's been 20 hours in your company across 2-3 dates and she doesn't want to fuck, SHE WILL NEVER WANT TO FUCK.

So whatever you do,, take it faster in future.

Where to go from here: how big/small is it exactly?

Girl sounds like a savage and also, she's not your gf if you haven't fucked yet. You shouldn't be putting up with girls that make you wait