So, matched with a hot chick on Tinder and got her number. Started texting with great rapport in the sense of teasing/inside jokes and all. She also turned out to be a good 2 inches taller than me lol which I handled with the usual agree and amplify's and me liking long legs on a chick anyway, she seemed fine with it. Texting phase lasted about 2 weeks without me making plans (long I know), so she asked me out for a drink.
We go on the date, might have started off somewhat awkward but as the night progressed I got more in my element. After the drink we go walk around and I escalate with some kino, having her sitting on my lap, carrying her etc. We end up in the back of my car listening to the radio, she does the puppy eyes (TM) at me so I go in for the kiss. She kisses back very enthusiastically so I keep escalating, making out and touching each other for a good while until I go to unzip her pants, at which point she says something along the lines of "Let's save that for next time". No problem, we just keep making out and it didn't feel like a rapport break or anything. It starts to get late and I drive her back to where she parked her car, cause it was night and otherwise she'd have to walk the whole distance. Just before she gets out of my car she once again says "Until... next time?" quite hesitantly and I reply "Sure" with a smile.
After that I didn't text her for 2 days to build up some tension. Next day was her birthday so I texted her happy birthday and initiated a convo again which was going well. I asked her to go see a movie or something soon but suddenly she was swamped with schoolwork for at least 2 weeks (it wasn't a busy period in the semester at all). The conversation peters out and I assume that if she's interested she'll text me so I don't initiate anymore. She doesn't contact me anymore and unfollows/-friends me on everything a while later. I also walked past her on campus around that time but she was quick to pull her phone out and stare at it the moment she saw me lol, didn't try to talk to her.
Any obvious mistakes I made? I think it's odd that she seems attracted to me (asking me out, puppy eyes, making out) and talked about meeting up again only to practically ghost later. Not butthurt cause I've already got the next chick lined up to see, but I'm just trying to learn and don't quite understand this one. Maybe not enough comfort after the first date bc I didn't text for so long?
redhawkes 2 1y ago
This is not a NO, or Stop. Calibrate.
ASD, read the sidebar. Many guys fail here cos of lack of dominance. This is why niceguys/betas don't fuck.
https://www.trp.red/p/whisper/1274
She wanted to fuck, you just needed some push/pull to not make her feel like a slut. Also the 2weeks texting, are you retarded or something?
She found another dick, move on.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Send 3 solid messages to her and then get her on a date, what the are you doing sending so many more messages than that?
Other than that you went straight from making out to unzipping her pants. Massive anti slut defense. You need to escalate gradually and at a pace that makes her want it. You took her straight from "I like making out" to "what the fuck is he doing?".
Girls should be able to say "it just happened!" When it comes to sex, going straight to unzipping pants from first base is not going to accomplish that
Objetpetita 1y ago
Thing is, especially with online dating it seems like they need to somewhat get to know you first to know that they're not meeting a creep. At least that's the vibe I'm getting, going for dates super quick just gets me ghosted most of the time.
Might not have described this properly bc the post was getting long, but I was already touching her boobs under her bra when I went for the pants, not a massive discontinuity I think.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Yeah, no. That's not true at all
That's going to be a massive privacy obstacle for a lot of women
At any rate, I always try to get a girl topless before going for pants. If her shirt is already off, it's kind of like, "well my pants are the next logical step"
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Read my comment thread on this post
https://www.forums.red/p/asktrp/299826/game_on_tinder/7291727/
Themadlad94 1y ago
Sorry for hijacking thread guys but how do I actually post a question, I’m on mobile and there doesn’t seem to be a button ?
Onestepeveryday 1y ago
https://imgur.com/a/zM9JnR9
Its harder on a phone.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
First you text her for two weeks like a nice guy, no rush. She sets up the date, and in her mind you guys connect well, and she holds off sex until later.
THEN you decide to act like you're the shit, and not text her for a full two days to build tension.
Bro. She expected you to be a nice guy, borderline simp probably. Then you dont chase at all after she dangles her bait at you. Massive incongruence and rapport break. You made her feel insecure and like her assumptions were wrong so she cut it off for her own ego's sake.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Yeah, it's a bit odd, but girls sometimes do this. Could be a million reasons. It's why you don't emotionally invest in girls. Sometimes they meet someone else, sometimes they change their mind, sometimes it's ASD, you never really know.
Correct contact is "hope you got home safe girl" or similar, after that anything from 1 to 5 days is totally fine.
SeasonedRP 1y ago
She probably met someone else she's interested in. Don't over-analyze it.