TL;DR Potential plate said that I’m angry with her for soft next-ing her. Why?
Hi, I’ve been a lurker for the past two years and I have not yet encountered a situation like this before - please help me understand.
I’m currently vetting 3 plates (yes, I’ve had sex with them multiple times already) and there’s a girl who I was planning on adding to my rotation. We made out and there was a lot of KINO but suddenly, I just got turned off.
When we were dancing in the club, I was rejecting her escalations - she would ask me to make out, grind, etc. So she’s had enough and then she dipped.
Fast forward to 3 weeks, my guy friend was inviting her again and then she asked if I was going to be there. When he said yes, she said she’ll pass since she said that “I think redoktober13 is mad at me.”
This baffles me as to why and how. Was it because I soft nexted her? I was still interested it’s just that I got turned off that night.
EDIT: Bear in mind that she says that what happens in the night, stays in that night. So even after all her out of town trips, she was still butthurt about me. I know it’s watch what she is doing and don’t go by her words but yeah, baffling.
Scorpion69_ 1y ago
u negating her advances frustrated her. she either said "hes mad at me" because she genuinely thinks u are, or to protect her ego.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Dude, this isn't a soft next, you rejected her sexual advances. Soft next is putting her on the temporary back burner for poor behavior, weak sexual performance, disrespect, etc.
You straight up shot her down dude. Not a soft next. If you were interested in her this was the wrong move man
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
@redoktober13 I mean, yeah you could probably invite her out yourself next time. She might say yes or she might say no. If she says no at least you might be able to rely on FOMO of her being like (maybe I should have gone with redoktober)
Maybe she'll get over herself but any overt attempts to salvage it might backfire and be a frame hit to yourself
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Oh I agree Fallen, just the think OP should be cool about it and not like "sorry for the other night".
Yeah, definitely don't discard her over it, but be realistic that female butthurt is a real thing
redhorndog 1y ago
I was rejecting her escalations - she would ask me to make out, grind, etc. So she’s had enough and then she dipped.
If a girl did that to you what would you think. You would come here asking people what does it mean and then given adice to next her.
3 weeks isnt a soft next, its sending the message that youve borderlined dumped her from the rotation.
If you really want her back, hit her up, invite her to cheap activity, escalate and penis in vagina.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Girls massively exaggerate male disinterest. You ignoring her a bit gets translated in her head to "mad at me". It's dumb as fuck, but it's what they do.
Girls are stupid, short term and inescure.
If your'e turned off that night, she'll think that's how you still feel about her. They're insecure as fuck and always jump to the most negative interpretation.
Right.. this means "sex can happen but then we forget about it".
Emotional feelings though..... she's gonna hold onto those for ever more.