Good evening gentlemens,
How do you find a purpose that is not related to women?
Everytime I decide on something I feel like I am doing this to get women.
For example,
Become the best version of myself by lifting and making money, but deep down I knew that I am doing this only to get attention from girls.
I assume maybe this is a side effect of having scarcity deeply rooted in my psyche.
Any thoughts?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Hobbies, Passions, career path, philanthropic endeavors, good male friends
Can enjoy all of those without needing women and various combinations of those can delve into a broader mission
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Aaron Clarey wrote a book called The Menu. It specifically deals with this topic.
Hanscheezburger 1y ago
Nothing wrong with the goal of getting women. It gives you pleasure, social validation and continue your DNA. Some species live their whole life to have sex then die like cicada and some spiders.
The wrong thing is focusing too much on women and neglect other aspects of life like hobbies and self improvement. You're basically shooting yourself in the foot and keep running in circles because that's what attracts women.
If you want women then just be honest with yourself and get them. If you truly want to find a hobby that isn't related to women then just keep trying things out until you find one that you really enjoy. Some people like board games, or RPG... It's best to find something that gives you the best of both worlds like physical sports.
If you think your career (your way of making money) is just for female validation then chances are you're at the wrong job. What skills do you have? What do you enjoy doing? What do you excel at? Find something that you really like that's also in demand by the market. If you don't have one yet then why not learn one?