Good evening everyone.
I broke up my ltr threeweeks ago. I assume I handled it well and just went no contact. The thing is she was very sexy in my terms. I don't have a lot of girls due to my region. I live in a muslim country so date to fuck or one night stands are not very popular yet. I have been with this girl for two years. She was a virgin before.
Relationship ended due to my fault. I accepted that. I learned from my mistakes. I don't dwell on the past. I started hitting gym seriously and going out more. I don't have love pain. But when I think about her body, I just start to think I can't find better. I know this is stupid but I am only sad about the sexual part. Sex was awesome always. She was very submissive. Is this a kind of oneitis? I believe I can find better but my brain does not make me feel the same way.
I thought about the pain and I think it is happening because of the reason that I connect with a woman too much when I had sex. It happened in my last relationships too. Everytime break up happens I only get sad about the sexual part that is gone.
Another reason I am feeling bad is that she was 20 and very young. I am 25 now and I like younger women between 18-21. I do feel like I am getting older to pull off 19s 20s. What is your experience about this. Am I worrying too much?
I want to hear Mattys response to this. Everytime he comments I just look at the page like "vaow!" I also want to thank for everyone still answering questions. Men need this sub.

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mattyanon Admin 3y ago
It's not oneitis....... but you do need to find new girls so your brain FEELS that it can get hot new girls with great bodies. I promise you they exist.
You are imposing scarcity on yourself, and you're feeling that because you're not in the feedback loop of getting good experiences with more new women.
Hitting the gym and going out more is a great start :) Drop the bodyfat, get a few muscles, hit up some girls.
You're worrying too much, you can easily date women in their early 20's until you're at least 30.
Looks like you're in luck ;)
fblackstone 3y ago
thank you matty. you made my day. Yes, it looks more like a scarcity mentality problem. Will work on that. I believe my biggest issue is I value myself based on my sexual success. I am searching and reading about this. I hope I wil find the answers.
mattyanon Admin 3y ago
Yeah, that's a problem. You should definitely try to find sexual success, but it's best all round if you can avoid being a slave to it.
fblackstone 3y ago
I will try to achive self- validation. thank you
mattyanon Admin 3y ago
You do this by living your best life by your own values, pushing yourself to get what YOU want out of life.
fblackstone 3y ago
One last question. I know it is better to move on and İ started doing this. Do they come back matty?
mattyanon Admin 3y ago
Sometimes they come back, usually when you stop caring.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
It's actually pair bonding.
Hanscheezburger 3y ago
How's the weather in Iran Pejman?