I'm dating a girl that's always all over me, does what I want to do, gives me gifts, chases me, compliments me etc., basically all the good stuff. She also told me she loves me and never liked anyone as much as me.
Anyways, I'm busy 90% of the time (she is very aware of that, complains about it a lot) and I texted her to meet up.
To clarify, what I didn't like is that she wasn't "fuck yes daddy" down to meet (as she always is) and was more like "meh, I don't care if I see you or not". She often cancels on her plans to see me, texts me for dates herself etc. This is the convo:
Me: you miss me yet?
Her: a bit
actually no
Me: good, so we don't have to see each other then
Her: we don't have to if you don't want to left her on read
Her: you don't wanna see me Chad?
Me: do you?
Her: I always wanna see you Chad
Me: I know, then we'll probably hangout tomorrow
Her: if you don't have time then forget it
Me: I have time
Her: do whatever you wanna do Chad left her on read cuz kinda disrespectful
Her next morning 10am: I don't know if I'll have time today (flakey behavior)
Me: ok (6 hours later)
Her: maybe a bit later
Me: no, not today (already made other plans)
Her: baby I don't know when I'll see you
Me: some time you definetely will
Her: I miss you
Me: you had a chance
Her: I'm sorry
are you mad? left her on read
Her: did I do something wrong Chad?
I really had a lot of things to do
Me: ok, then say so right away
Her: What's the problem Chad?
Me: there isn't one, but you're getting spanked
Her: I apologized
Me: Good girl
Her: Am I getting spanked?
Me: you are, nothing changes
Her: you have me wrapped around you fingers Chad
Me: Good
I may seem like an asshole in this convo, but that's only to show her she fucked up. I do reward her and treat her nicely when she's doing everything right.
Did I read into it too much and got upset for no reason? Is it fine to expect and demand a plate to always be in her feminine and thankful when I make time to see her? Should I tell her something about her behaviour or do you think she got the message about what she had done wrong?
adipxz 3y ago
Save some cringe for the rest of us won't you "Chad"
jesus christ
two possibilities I see: a) you're both in your early 20s, low level of education b) you're adults but verge on mental retardation
either way... don't reproduce
Scorpion69_ 3y ago
"Her: you have me wrapped around you fingers Chad
Me: Good"
next time, say "i know" instead of "good". its better.
as for the convo, imo it is kinda weird as fuck, too much back and forth.
shes a plate isnt she? be more assertive and more to the point. text less, u give her too much attention.
dont expect things from a plate, they are for fucking. expect things from a ltr
roblox_porn_addict 3y ago
I think when people say they're "dating" someone it usually refers to an exclusive relationship. Are you two exclusive?
chadchaddington 3y ago
We are not exclusive, she's pushing for an LTR but I have no intentions of being in one. Poor choice of words I guess. Not my native language.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
she's made it clear she wants more, she wants a LTR/exclusivity. Expect the shit tests, acting up to continue and to increase.
Ultimately she'll force the talk, or walk. Which is ok, get more plates.
r3z01v 3y ago
She sounds like a fattie.
Anyway, I think you are milking her for signs of love and affection, probably because you have trauma and need to bask in female love to think you are worth loving in the first place. Been there. It's just a bandage.
holeephuc 3y ago
how did you overcome it
r3z01v 3y ago
Getting emotionally grounded. Being the good and the nurturing influence you needed for others. Finding the inner father figure in you that you lacked. Simple answer, complicated to achieve. Find your path in the world. Achieve freedom. Become responsible. Cut aside your slice of the world and create the space you have power to set rules and make the world have sense within that slice.
And crucial last step: Bring others in. The difference between self delusion and self actualization is the validity of your beliefs and behavior. And that validity is verified by how compatible your frame, your sovereignty is with processing the world for others.
mattyanon Admin 3y ago
What the fuck? Why all this fucking texting shit?
She got the message, but jesus man...... stop fucking talking about it and being so overtly clear.
She backs off, you back off further, but you do this by ignoring and then setting up a meeting or leaving big gaps, you don't fucking discuss it in such intricate logical ways.
Asking if she misses you is needy as fuck.
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
You're letting her rile you up a bit. It's not a big deal, it's just beta bait on her part. I would be more succinct in my texts to avoid these drawn out exchanges that girls enjoy.