i need your insight fellow RP. i can't stop thinking about my oneitis FWB even tho she is a walking red flag she's literally HB9 all the red flags that you could imagine is with her
- proud that she is a slut/ flirty / high body count / wearing very short/tight dress
- she's a smoker / heavy drinker / have tattoo / party girl
- attention whore (always active in social media)
- 34yrs old and single for almost 7years (she enjoy riding a dick without commitment and she enjoy to entertain her orbiters)
- enjoy having rough sex (BDSM , anal, slap etc.)
the only good thing about her is her look, her big ass and her being fun around that's why i upgrade her to FWB before. she's the only woman i had sex with a body like this. she's mixed race (black + egyptian) even she don't workout all the fats are going to her ass , thigh and boobs. so she's aging well even the post wall is near she look younger than other girls even at 25+ cuz of botox and doing filler to her face.
my 9months LTR is HB6 29yrs old , (fit body)she likes to workout alot but she is no near sexy as my previous FWB , she is the definition of house wife material.
- she workout, she love to read books and play games with me
- she always cook and bake
- don't like to go out and drink with her friends without me
- she do everything i said at bed
- she respect and adore me so much when i said something she listen and follow
- very low body count and inexperience at sex (she don't even know how to give a proper BJ)
- she only have instagram just to keep in touch with her friends, news and memes but never upload any picture of herself. (no tiktok, no FB, no snapchat, no twitter etc.)
- she always communicate to her family (mother , father and siblings)
and more green flags that you could wish for a woman.
i cut the contact to my FWB a year ago after she gave me a speech of "what are we" she tried to lock me up and want me to upgrade her to LTR even tho she's my oneitis i hide my feelings very well and deny her wishes cuz of those RED FLAG that i've seen.
2months ago she replied to one of my quotes that i post in my story and we talk a little bit out of nowhere she sent a picture wearing a piece of towel together with her new BF at the bathroom and she said "finally i'm in relationship and he is a lion" i just congrats her and wish her luck cuz she don't like to commit to anyone. her BF is a greek god model 6'5 with a full beard/pack of muscle and full of veins. 38yrs old ceo of the start-up company.
while i'm 5'7, 29yrs old fit but not big (i workout 5x a week). receding chin and having trouble to grow a beard yeah that guys is opposite of mine.
i keep thinking maybe with that kind of guy she will behave and remove all the red flags that she have just to please him which i failed to do when i'm with her cuz i'm not enough. i don't know how to remove her to my brain i keep imagining her even i'm with my LTR and i know this is not healthy.
TLDR: i reject my oneitis FWB to upgrade cuz of her red flag now even i'm with my lovely LTR of 9months i keep imagining my FWB. even tho we stop seeing each other for almost a year.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Whats up with this self doubt over this stupid skank.
Work on coaching your girl. That's the thing with girls who are LTR material, they're just the base to create something with.
Make your LTR your slut.
LudgerKresnik 1y ago
"Make your LTR your slut."
hear you bro thanks.
sandman 1y ago
she was the best man
what’s up sandman2018?
how is samantha and her bf? you jealous?
LudgerKresnik 1y ago
bro you are sick i swear stop commenting here if you don't know who's alt and legit.
i even barely came up here and you keep saying this is my alt? i've been in trp since 2020 stop accusing someone. i'm seeking advice here stop sabotaging my post you fucking incel.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
I always go for hoes. The nastier the better. Just gotta remember they're never yours, it's just your turn. Save all your time, energy, and resources for a woman that would make a good wife and mother of your children and fuck dem hoes.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
There's your whole hang up.
This woman gave you mind-blowing model sex and now your current girl can't even give a proper bj.
You've intertwined your horniest desires with your male feels. And you miss it.
You're overthinking the reason probably.
Probably wanted to lock down the whore for himself. Might have had more to do with wanting exclusive goddess sex than thinking she'd be a good housewife one day. Or he's gullible, who knows.
Yeah, no. Man's gonna spiral into a shit show later because of her, you dodged a bullet
She tried to lock you down, the fuck you talking about? What's she gonna do, post this instead:
"finally i'm in relationship after another guy I had great sex didn't want to commit, and he is a lion
Stop the self pity, she wanted to lock you down and you said no. So she moved on. You were clearly enough for her, you just made a smart decision instead of letting your dick slowly suck the life out of you through her.
You're just insecure about the dude. Fuck, I'd hate to see an ex with him. But fuck it, who cares, the guy took a hoe off the market instead of a decent woman, who he could have obtained. Man took one for the whole team out there so we could have the better women. Dude's a moron, fuck what you think of him
LudgerKresnik 1y ago
thank you for the honesty i appreciate especially with a insecure about the dude. when i saw him i feel shit about my genetics and i start to question my self again like a BP days - why i don't have beard like that why my height is not even 6 foot tall. why i don't have a sharp jaw like that etc.. worst is i even use alot of my time/effort/game before to make her my FWB but this dude it's just like a week or month knowing her he locked her in easily.
but you know you are right it's just my rational horniest mind thinking that i missed her body/sluttiest but the truth is i dodged the bullet she is gone now and i need to focus to what i have now and what to improve.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
The brutal truth is the dude has blessed SMV. He is also an outlier, there are very few men like that around and you're not likely to have to encounter it more than once in a blue moon. Shit definitely sucks to acknowledge, it's okay to feel crappy about it. But definitely gotta refocus ASAP on more important things
And yeah no problem. Focus on what you have. Encourage your current girl to get better through praise for when something feels good and be willing to guide her. Your current girl has room to get more experience with you
Iliketoast 1y ago
Oneitis is like any drug and actually operates in similar ways in terms of brain patterns.
Only solutions is to replace it with something similar/better or cut contact all together. Block her, dont look at any messages or posts or you'll relapse. Do this long enough and you'll see it for nothing but an addiction to a whore.
Went through the exact same thing you describe but after years of no contact its just a fun memory to look back on.
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LudgerKresnik 1y ago
even tho this girl is always posting them together online and she's not active in social media as before? don't go out to party like she use to? also she showering this dude a gift with expensive perfumes, shoes and clothes which is also she never did before to anyone not even to me.
maybe she found her alpha and remove all the red flag that she have? is that even possible to a woman nature?
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LudgerKresnik 1y ago
actually i only listen to fellow RP, without trp i'm 100% sure i will commit to her before when she ask for commitment, without the sidebar knowledge i will disregard the red flag and choose the pussy.
that's why when you guys say something i always listen or just make it as my guideline. thank you.
now i need to fix my narrow mind and reprogram it.
sandman 1y ago
bruh u mentally retarded stop talking to yourself on alts
Hanscheezburger 1y ago
That won't last forever. You know what they say about taking a monkey out of the jungle. Trust us on this. Reinvent the wheel at your own risk
sandman 1y ago
this guy is the account with many alts. I can tell by his story. he says he is short and cant grow beard and has “red flag super hot and slut sex god fwb”. User FallenOne is also his alt.
he is always seeking some kind of validation on his “decision” to break up with “red flag hot ex fwb who did everything in bed for him”. when in reality she ghosted his sub beta cuck ass like 5 years ago and is now dating a giga chad and it wasn’t even his choice she left him.
also his story doesnt make sense why the fk would this hb9 goddess be fwb with 5’7 balding wet noodle when she already has giga chad bf
LudgerKresnik 1y ago
this sandman is sick. i bet you can't get hb9 that's why you accusing anyone who post about fwb right? get out of here fucker.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
She won't. You can't turn a ho into a housewife.
LudgerKresnik 1y ago
i don't have plan i just can't move on to her and that's pathetic of me even i keep re-reading the side bar for how many months.
tierteen 1y ago
While you read - bookmark stuff that resonates with your current situation the most - sticker it around house etc. 100% of content, will not be applicable to you 100%, at any given time.
I think that's why you'd have to reread stuff again in some time. Reminder & new applicable stuff.
I just finished Positive Masculinity, there is this motto like: "failing to plan is planning to fail"