For some Background I’m 24 and my ltr is 25. Sex is great. Let’s me do anything to her. Wants to please me. Has also taken 7 plan Bs as a result of me impulsively cumming in her raw. Always complains to me about how they make her feel And that she doesn’t like when she has to take them but obviously she lets me do as I please in the heat of the moment.
Always hold frame around her. Ignore passive aggressive comments. Set clear boundaries. Call Her out on bullshit. And she knows I’m willing to walk. There are times when I do drop frame and get sucked into her drama and it reinforces negative behaviour but overall the relationship is great and she spends money on me and buys me gifts, is affectionate etc.
Now last night the topic of exes come up and I keep it short and nonchalant without telling her much about my past. Then she tells me about how her ex that she dated for 10 months about 3 years ago was toxic and that was back when she was also toxic so they were toxic to each other (20 missed calls, breakups, gaslighting, manipulation etc). She tells me he was insecure and would always check up on her and wonder if she’s cheating and he’d take her on vacations. To me that seems like a hint of beta bucks but also someone that would create drama which would probably keep her on her toes.
She goes on to tell me that she was a scary person back then and used to manipulate men and they would manipulate her back etc. she goes on to say that she’s been working on overcoming those toxic traits and wants peace and stability now and the headache and paranoia and trauma was not worth it.
She then goes on to say that I do have moments where i can be toxic and hurtful but overall my demeanour is calm and collected and if we met back then she would find me boring and probably wouldn’t stick around. And then she claims there’s things that she let me do that she hasn’t let her exes do to her because with them she was just in it for the fun and didn’t see any long term potential.
She’s a graduated nurse now and makes good money. Is there any red flags in this conversation or anything that you guys noticed that I may not have picked up on through this interaction. For some background I’ve had my fair share of toxic relationships where I would manipulate and gaslight woman but I’ve outgrown that past. But for some reason a woman saying if she met me in the past she’d find me boring just doesn’t sit right with me.
elevengames about a year ago
She says wht's coming next. I think it was BPDs that tell you what they are about and then blame you for not listening
DastardlyCade about a year ago
Can you elaborate. She follows my lead and let’s me choose and rarely tries to give her input. Blowjobs and sex on command. Seems like she has a higher sex drive than me. Talks about marriage and a future. Comes from a good family. Truth be told I’m just trying to have short term fun and so far I am having fun without investing too much other than my presence.
redhawkes about a year ago
Classic reformed slut. Demote.
DastardlyCade about a year ago
Can you elaborate. She follows my lead and let’s me choose and rarely tries to give her input. Blowjobs and sex on command. Seems like she has a higher sex drive than me. Talks about marriage and a future. Comes from a good family. Truth be told I’m just trying to have short term fun and so far I am having fun without investing too much other than my presence.
redhawkes about a year ago
That's what I'm saying, spin her till she breaks. Anything serious and the things she told you will always be in the back of your mind.
What she's telling you is : I had my fun and now Im ready to settle down.
Wrap it up, so you don't fall in the baby trap. You're 24, get some young hoes.
OPPTRP about a year ago
Sounds like it’s time to bounce
DastardlyCade about a year ago
Should I just pump and dump and spin plates. I’m thinking as long as I’m not too invested it’s whatever
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whytehorse2021 about a year ago
Thrill chaser. Made bad decisions. Can't figure out how to get birth control. You appeal to her beta needs. You're not exciting. Get some tattoos, a motorcycle, and do a bunch of drugs to get her attraction.
DastardlyCade about a year ago
That sounds like a lot of her problems. If she’s spending money on me and makes more money than me, Should I just pump and dump and spin plates. I’m thinking as long as I’m not too invested it’s whatever. I’ll be coming out on top with or without her
whytehorse2021 about a year ago
It all boils down to what you can live with. Just ask yourself if you'd want her as a wife and mother of your children. If not, keep looking.
DastardlyCade about a year ago
She follows my lead and let’s me choose and rarely tries to give her input. Blowjobs and sex on command. Seems like she has a higher sex drive than me. Talks about marriage and a future. Comes from a good family. Truth be told I’m just trying to have short term fun and so far I am having fun without investing too much other than my presence.
whytehorse2021 about a year ago
I see that as becoming an issue at some point if she wants marriage and you don't. I don't see any problem with stringing her along, women do it to men all the time.
SheLarror1234 about a year ago
Shes alpha widow. You need more blackpill and redpill truth. Most women by this age already are run up and dry, so be extremely careful about LTR any women at this point of society. Honestly, idk whats wrong with the people here when i hear stories of them still LTR a post carousel wall women. Theres a reason they say women smv is gone by 25, especially today. Im guessing dudes still cuff because a lack of moral code, honor, or self respect, or maybe even desperation.. Then you end up like some dude here, getting trapped with a horrible harlot, with a kid on the way with her.
Basically your beta. Just dump her and keep your respect. No good mate will just be so willing to tell you this either, as she basically just told you you are her beta buxx. Disrespectful.
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DastardlyCade about a year ago
I get what you mean and obviously I shouldn’t be having any expectations of a post carousal woman. She claims she’s the one that ended that relationship and that she was the one manipulating him. Either Way when we have sex she tells me she loves it when I’m dominant and that she loves it when I choke her and use her. She makes more money than me and always splits the bill or offers to just pay and spends money on me. There’s plates I spin on the side and I get laid every weekend that I go out. So in reality I’m just with her for the perks and don’t invest much into her and if she left today or I left today it wouldn’t make much of a difference
HopelessRomantic about a year ago
Lot of red flags but this one stuck for me:
"She then goes on to say that I do have moments where i can be toxic and hurtful but overall my demeanour is calm and collected and if we met back then she would find me boring and probably wouldn’t stick around. And then she claims there’s things that she let me do that she hasn’t let her exes do to her because with them she was just in it for the fun and didn’t see any long term potential."
She wants you to think she's special. She want's you to be in her frame by planting these thoughts in your head that she values you and trusts you, blah blah blah. Actions speak louder than words. Study her behavior, not her words.
DastardlyCade about a year ago
Can you elaborate. She follows my lead and let’s me choose and rarely tries to give her input. Blowjobs and sex on command. Seems like she has a higher sex drive than me. Talks about marriage and a future. Comes from a good family. Truth be told I’m just trying to have short term fun and so far I am having fun without investing too much other than my presence.
financehardo420 about a year ago
“is a nurse” that’s the only red flag you need